Could i have a private post please?? I just want some peoples opinions on if i w…
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Could i have a private post please??
I just want some peoples opinions on if i was harsh or if i did the right thing. Throughout my pregnancy my mum has always said she wouldnt smoke around my son when he was born. Me and my partner smoke, but for me i wouldnt even class myself as a smoker as its so rare. anyway, my son was born and everytime we smoke we leave the house, (obviously not at the same time) take off a jacket we was wearing, wash our hands and freshen our breath, and still try to not contact my son for about 20 mins. It might sound abit drastic to others but thats what we want. My mum has known that we have done this since he was here. Anyway, she agreed to have him for mine and my ohs anniversary, but she said she will smoke in her house near him, she will just stand at the door, she said jacket, washing hands, and freshening breath is silly and she jas refused to do it. Then she said that she will take him out in his pram every time, which we really dont want either. So we agreed that if she couldnt compromise for 1 night like she promised, then she isnt having him this time.
Personally i think i did the right thing, but just want others veiws because my oh has been funny with me since.? Please state I didn’t smoke in pregnancy
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I would do the same, my parents were in the process of quitting when my lg was born. They smoked outside anyway, but when they came in they washed there hands and had a mint etc and I would t let them beat baby for half hour after, its was only for a month as they went onto ecig but even with them they go in a different room xx
She is out of order ice got a 3 week old and wen I go to my dad’s they all smoke but wen I go they go in a totally different room away from baby or out side. Whats the deal about not wanting her to take him out in his pram was just confused about that bit xxx
This is exactly what my HV told my partner to do because he smokes, if someone can’t respect your wishes don’t let them look after your child, just because a cigarette is put out it doesn’t mean the smell/toxins just disappear, they linger around on clothes/hair/furniture
Maby if she came to look after your little one at yours instead, she maby more inclined to stick to your rules as you don’t smoke indoors. (She may struggle with the rules in her home as it’s ‘her house her rules’. Will she be alone looking after your little one? X
For the first 6 months I even had a smoking hat so the smell wouldn’t stick to my hair. My lb is nearly 2 now and I still don’t like pushing him in the pram and having a cig, so I don’t. If you don’t want people to smoke around your baby that is entirely your choice. Just because it was done differently back in the day doesn’t mean that’s what you want for your baby. You’re mum. You have the last word on anything to do with your baby, you absolutely did the right thing.
You have a million percent done the right thing. Babies don’t choose to smoke so why should they be around it. Your mum should respect your decision & realise how important it is for her grandson to not be around the cigarette smoke as how harmful it is. Don’t let anyone lead you to believe that you have done something wrong, you are just protecting your little boy which is what us mummy’s do.💙💙💙💙
This is exactly what me and my partner done with both our children, we had the same problems going to family’s home who smoke inside not changing so I have up and moved the babies into another room and made sure they had plenty of outside time 😣 no one has my kids overnight so that was never an issue for us, but you did the right thing, if she can’t respect you or your baby then she’s not responsible enough to have baby x
Totally agree. My mother smokes around little ones and when I take them away she gets defensive. Don’t think smokers realise how they affect others around them. If I constantly farted or sprayed airfreshner they wouldn’t like it.
I totally agree with you. My husband smokes and he hasn’t smoked around our 3 children at all. Even if we are out somewhere and he needs one he always moves away from us as he doesn’t want them to see him smoking. This is your baby, your rules and no child should be breathing smoke in my opinion x
I used to be the exact same when my lo was babies i smoke myself but will always go outside and wash my hands after before touching baby if i was out and about i would use hand sanitiser, your baby your choice its not a bad thing u dont want the smoke round your child dont listen to others like i said YOUR CHILD YOUR CHOICE if people cant accept your wishes dont let them by your child xx
I think what it is as in my case bk in the days when we were having children people always smoked around babies in shops clubs on buses everywhere nobody would blink an eye as if it was the norm so maybe that’s y she can not understand the problem I understand what your saying and yes I agree with you if that’s what you’re asking her to do she should respect your wishes it’s not like you asked her to have you’re baby all week so one night wouldn’t hurt her
If somebody cant resepect your wishes and your nkt comfortable with leaving baby then dont do it. I would be same- iv been in same boat bit everybody went outside including myself when i was a smoker.
I would ratherher take him put in pram to sit in the next room if im honest put the rain cover over and depending on the way the winds blowing it probably won’t blow infront. Id rather not any tbf but you are not in the wrong for speaking up his your baby xx
I don’t let people smoke around my baby either and if they’ve recently smoked then they have to wait at least half an hour before going near my daughter.
At the end of the day he’s your son and other people have to respect your wishes. If they can’t do that then they don’t get to see your son, it’s that simple. xx
I would have done the same. You did right. Your child’s health is more important then what she wants. We do exactly the same as you, my partner smokes. X
Your baby your choice my parents always smoke in their house however … if they know il be going over they will not smoke in their house and will go outside.
If u dont want that then dont ask people to baby sit its simple
You done right. I don’t smoke. But id flip my lid if i knew my son was around it in aomeones house. Xx
You done the right thing I wouldn’t smoke in the same room as a strangers baby never mind my own family’s baby x
If you want her to look after your child and follow the rules the she would be leaving the child alone would she not
You are totally right in what you’re doing
Totally right. X
Stick your ground@!!
I have a shadow on my lung from passive smokers.