Evening Can I have a private post please.. My x partner and I have recently sepa…

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Evening
Can I have a private post please..
My x partner and I have recently separated. We have been together for 14 years, engaged – not married and have 2 kids. We have been separated for almost 5mths now (my decision as things had been a bit pear shaped for a while as I suspected he had been cheating or “online shopping” while on work trips away from the family)
When we first separated I totally cut him off as I needed the space to see if I could heal after what I discovered on his phone.

Over the last couple of weeks we have started to become closer again (had sex once) and I thought things were getting better again. He isn’t interested in going to couples counseling although I have been having my own sessions regularly.
He is now telling me in round about way that if I keep hanging around with a couple of my friends that he isn’t interested in making things work between us again, in his words (them or him). Then today my mum saw him at a sports carnival at school and said hello to him and he was very rude and blunt to her. So I asked him tonight why he did that as she has done nothing wrong to him and he said he doesn’t need negative people in his life. He has cut almost everyone now and it’s pretty much just him (he hardly even speaks to his own parents or brothers).
I really don’t know my question exactly to ask all of you. But more so just want to know how are we ever suppose to move on (if we get back together) when he is telling me not to hang out with friends and now cutting off my mum.
I should also mention that he has said that he wants me and our kids and wants to be with us, but I’m just not seeing him putting in any effort to make changes for us to work i.e. Counseling.
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