Has anybody got experience of their partner struggling to cope with their baby? …
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Has anybody got experience of their partner struggling to cope with their baby? 🙁 My little boy is 11 weeks old and my partner struggled to cope. He wouldn’t get up in the night, he would lay in until 10 AM the next morning, he would lay on the sofa saying he felt suicidal and would stomp around the house swearing and in a foul mood if the baby was playing up too much or I asked him for help and he would often snap at the baby or hand him to me saying he couldn’t do it. So I left our house at 5 weeks to live with my mum and I told him to return to his parents house so they could give him the time and help I couldn’t provide with a newborn so he returned to his parents home 2 hours away. He apparently has depression that makes him this way. However, he he now has a job in his parents town and goes out with his friends weekly and plays computer games every night. He has blamed me for ‘kicking him out’. I’ve basically been a single mum for the past 6 weeks and it’s been so hard and I’ve felt so disappointed in him . I’m solely responsible for the upkeep of the house, our pets and our baby (bar saturday afternoons). I was telling him yesterday how much housework I had to do and how hard it was without help from him with the baby and he said ‘What do you expect me to do, pity you?’ I was incredibly hurt and felt this was out of order. So I have given him an ultimatum today to either move back and man up and be the dad/partner we need or not bother coming back as I feel I have been patient long enough. However, he said he isn’t coming back full time as he can’t do it and he is prepared to come down every weekend and stay with us but then return to his parents house/job up there. Does anyone else think this is completely unreasonable ? I just don’t know what to do. I feel completely let down. I understand depression is a horrible illness but as he is going out/has a job up there I can’t help but feel he is just backing out of the responsibility.
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I think he needs to man up An stop being selfish I think u will better of on your own xx
That’s not depression he just chooses to be a lazy father and is not ready to be one by the sounds of it. You can do it alone, and you can cope without him
I think he’s unprepared for fatherhood but is willing to try, why not give his suggestion a two month trial and see how it goes? If you want him to be part of your and your babies life it might be a way forward xx
My partner got depression after our daughter but has not reacted this way. My daughter is now 2 years old and we have another on the way and he helps out when he can but he has anxiety as well but he’s on tablets to control his depression and anxiety and we’ve been living together since before our first was born. Maybe he needs to go to the doctors about his depression and talk to someone. Either he’s just saying he has depression or he just can’t handle the fact of having a newborn baby and enjoys his freedom too much x
he sounds pethic and throwing his toys out the pram ! u r giving your attention to your new baby and he is acting up :@ tell him to grow up and be a bloody dad
I don’t think he’s ready hunnie I don’t know what to suggest. Stop replying on him you got this!
He’s a twat. I’m a paranoid schizophrenic I have depression and anxiety with three kids, I look after them and my house, I cook, I clean I get up with them I go days without sleep when my 14 month old is playing up. He’s not wanting the responsibility he wants to pick and choose when to be a dad. You dont need that, move on and be a top mum. I wouldn’t give him the time of day x