Hello, I need some advice big time. I don’t usually post on here. Well I think t…

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Hello, I need some advice big time. I don’t usually post on here. Well I think this is the 1st time. Well I’ve been with my partner nearly 2 years, we are so alike it’s actually scary sometimes. He took on my son and has done since he was 4, he is now 6. I have a few issues. How are you’re partners with ur children? (Not biological).. At the beginning he was alright, but now he just constantly moans about him, yes my son has become a right terror, and I mean bad. He doesn’t do as he’s told, he will hit me, throw things, doesn’t know the meaning of ‘no’ the school have tried helping, speech people the lot. No one will do anything as he is ‘to young still’.. but my partner just doesn’t show him love in the slightest. He will hug and kiss him goodnight and that’s it, from the moment he gets back from work he will talk to him, help with his food but if my son does something silly, or doesn’t listen to me, he will just look at him what looks like.. disgust. I see him do it. Then if I say don’t do this.. and my son does it anyway my partner will roll his eyes, or sigh. Then he will step in and say if u don’t listen to mummy I’ll shout and you’ll cry. My son is behind a year, he has slow speech and communication, and he just says ‘he should be reading by now, he should be able to colour by now’.. I’ve mentioned this loads to him and he says he does love him, he says if he didn’t he wouldn’t spend 100-150 on him and Christmas, he wouldn’t be up and help if he’s not well etc. I’ve said about him showing him love, cuddles etc and he said he doesn’t show love like that, he is a guy and that’s the way he is. And I don’t like it, truth is I want him to be a father role model, but when he does tell my son off and upset my son it pisses me off, even if my son was in the wrong I get angry with my partner. It was just me and my son for 4 years, I ain’t used to it. He doesn’t do nothing with him either, he won’t draw, read, write, play football, teach him to ride his bike. He does nothing and i mean nothing. I admit my son is 90% naughty every day, it’s very rare he is good and he stresses me out to the max also! He is worse when me and my partner are together, if my partner takes him round the block or something he is as good as gold, I am due to get married next year but it’s things like this I question. I have sciatica in my legs and arms, I am on medication every day. 20 odd tablets a day, he helps by washing up and putting away every night but I’m left to do the rest. He does work 10 hour shifts but I also work, only 5 hours but If he is tired or not well he gets to sit down and relax, like tonight he fell asleep at 8:30 and I had to tidy, do washing, sort my son out etc, then once I come upstairs to bed he then comes up 5 minutes later. I have bad trust issues also with him, he has lied in the past, nothing to do with cheating but has messaged exs before, we get on so much more better than what we used to, around 10 months ago we was so bad and ended every day nearly and now we argue like once every 2 weeks and make up instantly.. but the issue with my son, the way he is with him, I’ve told him so so many times and threaten to leave, say this is what will drive me away he promises to change but nothing, I want him to show my son he loves him, I don’t expect him to do it if my son is naughty no, but surely if my son was shown more love and attention he wouldn’t be so naughty? I have told him this but nothing. I don’t want to get married if this relationship is going to end, he is just the way he is with my child, he is lazy, if I ache really bad one day he just rolls his eyes and I got to carry on, if I don’t want sex he moans, I I ask him to make my son a drink and take it upto him, he sighs, he does it but sighs or rolls his eyes, same if I ask for one, if he’s ill he goes to bed for days, but if I’m ill it’s a different story. I don’t get 1 single day off, I’m on the go all the time, he won’t help anymore, he says he will change and doesn’t. I love him and I know my son loves him, I just want some advice. Thank you!
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