Hi can a private post please? Hi ladies please help me I’m not sure what to th…
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Hi can a private post please?
Hi ladies please help me I’m not sure what to think or do me and my partner have been together for 3 years and have a 11 month old daughter…. he separated with me on Tuesday evening and booked himself into a hotel for the week we then decided to give it another shot on Sunday for our families sake which I was more than thrilled about but then he told me that he won’t be home for another week and booked himself back into the hotel. When I got home that evening I noticed that every charging point had been taken as well as the laptop, iPad and to top it off my phone has been cut off (he is in control of the payments) he has left me £20 for the week to feed our daughter, put petrol in the car to get to A-B with her and put food in the fridge for myself. I’ve also checked our bank account which he has the cards for and £2000 has been spent within the last week. It is our daughters 1st birthday on the 16th and she has nothing to show for it and there is now no money to even buy her a teddy! I haven’t heard of him since yesterday when he told me he was staying in a hotel again not even a text to see how our daughter is. I don’t know what to do anymore I really don’t want to leave him I really do love him. There is a lot more to it but I really would be here all day typing it out pls help me ladies my mental health is on the line here! X
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Love as hard as it is he has left you pack what left of his stuff tell him to come get it , if any of that money is yours in the bank then block the card think of yourself and your daughter ring benefits get that sorted make sure you keep the roof over your head , sorry to hear that you have no money for your daughters birthday but it’s not your fault he’s done this to you , you can make it up to her when you get your first payment, he has let you down badly don’t let him walk back in keep your head up you and your daughter are worth more x
I know it won’t be the same but if you inbox me, me and my daughters will send a birthday parcel to your little girl for her birthday.
Take a deep breath and calm your emotions, looking at the bigger picture you don’t need him for stability or emotional calm. You need to regain faith in yourself again. It’s amazing how strong people can be when they need to, don’t turn bitter or let it affect your mental health. Please let yourself be reassured and inbox please x
Do you have your own income? If so I would change the details of where that money goes for the future. If you plan to stay with him you need to keep your money to yourself in case this happens again.
From the information you have given he is either extremely controlling and trying to make you feel dependent on him or he is spending that money elsewhere – gambling, girls or something along those lines.
Definitely get down to a food bank to see if you can get some bits for the week as well.
Has there been any history of depression for him? Perhaps this is a down period for him if he does have a history of it.
I want to be able to give you hope but unfortunately if he has done this twice in a short space of time it doesn’t look great 🙁
I hope you and your daughter are doing ok xxx
A food bank may help you if you explain your circumstances. They may ask to see your bank statement and/or you may need a referral. You can get one from your health visitor if you explain your circumstances. Apply for benefits. And forget about him. If he loved you or his daughter he wouldn’t have done this to you. My thoughts are he is ither having a mental breakdown or he is shacked up with another woman. Ither way, you need to put you and your daughters needs first. Stay strong. Good luck x
do you know the hotel he is staying, I would go there and see? you never know he could be spending that cash with another lady.. or another thing he could be planning a nice surprise you never know.
£20 to feed you and a child, whilst he can take £2000 out from ur account? I’d be telling him 2 stay the hell away and not return.
give it time to see if the money has been spent on something like a suprise etc…. if not id get rid its irresponsible …
£2000 I’d say he taken another bird away with him .
That’s a lot of money! Could he be gambling?
you need to be applying for benefits