Hi can I have a post please? I’m in a massive dilemma and I have no idea what t…

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Hi can I have a post please?
I’m in a massive dilemma and I have no idea what to do …
I’m not sure at all if I am doing the right thing or not ..
I split with me ex 2 months ago because he was emotionally abusive towards me and constantly putting me down … There’s no wayg in hell I want to get back with him … We I’ve 3 children together . my eldest isn’t biologically his .. But has called him dad from age of 2 and he brought him up then .. He’s now 7 … He also has 2 kids from a previous relationship one older than my boy and one younger than my boy … Now he had the children the 2nd week we split overnight … Here’s the story … He told my boy that I wasn’t going to be picking him up and he wouldn’t be coming back home to me … All because I said he needs to drop them back as I took them to him. .. Now he text me while I was outside his house saying he had told my son this .. So obviously I’ve kicked off having a go at him … Although I probably shouldn’t have risen to it .. The day after my son had a minor panic attack . then in school had a major one and he lost consciousness and had to go to hospital and he’s been diagnosed with stress .. So I told my boy that he had a choice to go ijver and explained it in the best way possible why .. Now ever since I give my son a choice … I have also stopped contact due to dad being on drugs while he had my children and that day he had smoked it from morning until night … I gave him a chance to see the kids supervised by saying he can’t have a joint for 24 hours before contact ..my son however said he didn’t want to see him unless he comes to the house .. He turned up smelling off weed to a playcentre .. So I stopped it again .. Now ever since all of this my son has lost weight he’s not eaten … Do you think I’m doing the right thing by stopping contact ?? Or respecting my sons wishes by him not going. . I feel like its a constant battle of what I should or shouldn’t be doing .. I feel like I should give dad one last chance but to come to mine to ease my sons anxiety … Dad keeps telling me its my fault he’s messed in the head because I told him he’s not his biologically .. I didn’t do it to hurt him … I did it to help my son see that out of all 6 kids my son was the one told this because he wasn’t biologically his so no one can say he’s an unfit father because my son isn’t actually his … If that makes sense xx I feel he needs to apologise majorly to my son and make my son know that he won’t take him away from me …
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