Hi can I have a post please? Thank you I’m 30 weeks pregnant and starting to th…
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Hi can I have a post please? Thank you
I’m 30 weeks pregnant and starting to think about my birth plan. I’m not with the baby’s dad and he’s made no effort to be civil around me and supportive towards me. We weren’t together when I got pregnant either (please no judgements) but we both sat down and discussed it like adults and agreed to make the best out of the situation, agreed to support one another and he promised to be there whatever I needed. He got into a relationship in October (a friend has posted about this previously on my behalf) and since then he’s gone back on every promise in regards to supporting me and how we planned to prepare and welcome the baby. I won’t go into detail but if people need to know anything else just ask and I’ll post in comments. Anyway, because of this I don’t particularly feel comfortable having him in the delivery room which he really wants. Things are quite awkward between us and i know I need to feel as comfortable as I can in there so baring all in front of him when I’m most vulnerable gives me anxiety. I’m not sure whether I’ll let him in there anyway until the time comes really which is why I’m seeking advice and what would I should do. Am I being selfish or should I be allowed to be selfish at that point? Am I being unfair to deny him the chance to be at the birth? I don’t know what to do, I’ve tried to make the effort with him to be at least a little comfortable around him, enough so he can be In there but he’s said he doesn’t want to see me until she’s here and it’s necessary to be around me and won’t discuss baby things with me. Won’t even attend the midwife or antenatal classes because he says “it’s what couples do.” Also, has anyone ever given birth alone? I don’t have any friends close by and unless an induction date is booked I won’t know when I’m going into labour and the only person that I’d feel comfortable being in there is my auntie and she works full time, I feel like a bane asking her to take time off 🙈 so I’m thinking of doing it alone even though I’ve heard many horror stories. Again, please no judgements 🙈
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