Hi can I have a pp please. So I’m just looking for advice mainly and what peop…

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Hi can I have a pp please.

So I’m just looking for advice mainly and what people’s opinions are on this kind of situation.

This is a LONG ONE just to give heads up much info as possible…. I had my first born at a very young age with a man quite abit older than me our relationship was very rocky he had a few issues I was young and immature you can imagine rest…, when she was born and it was time to register her name he didn’t turn up I didn’t want to face the fact he wouldn’t step up so I re booked the registration on another date istead of giving her my last name, he turned up she got registered in his surname and he was there as a dad to her for about 2 months, then our relationship broke down and he didn’t bother to see her for months on end after she had turned one I can remember going through a gap where I never heard anything from him or his family at all then later found out he was having a child with another young girl, I can’t remember how but I got back in contact with him and his family and tried arranging for him to get back into our daughters life (in suitable way because at this point I learned he had chosen a bad path and was using god knows what drugs) I put that behind me and trusted him the first and last time he saw her after her turning one was just before her 2nd birthday and he actually told me he didn’t feel he could have her anymore because he’s never got any money (i had given money for her dinner and Nappys wipes etc that time he did have her)
After this I got rid of any contact I could have with him (number fb etc) but we did live in the same village, I often walked passed him with my our daughter and he would blank her she would recognise him but not quite know that she knew him with her only seeing him an hand full of times and only being just turned two it was heartbreaking to see and I soon saw him in such a state that Iknew there would be no coming back from this. I was also pregnant at the time of this happening and when I had my youngest I bumped into him on the street and he was high and stumbling all over and shouting stuff at me…he egged my windows he scratched my partners car top to bottom …. me and my partner decided to up and leave the village right before my eldest started school full time. I’ve never heard anything from him self since and since then my eldest started calling my partner dad (we got into a serious relationship in the mix of all this happening so she’s known him since just turning two she’s not 6 years old and the most happy intelligent wouldnt want for nothing little girl (absolute diva) I was in a bad place really now I look back when I was involved with her biological dad but her step dad has changed our lives his family have completely took my eldest just the same and my youngest (their biological relation) they treat her no different at all and she knows they’re her family and my partner has and will continue to give her a life and love and security her biological dad could never have. He’s had opportunities to get in contact he never has and now I have grown up also and realised what type of person he is and what he does he would not step foot near her over my dead body.. I’ve always stayed in contact via fb with his family and they do often comment about her but never see her or seem really that interested. As I’m from the same village you know you hear stuff now and that what people think you should know ( but what you really do not want to know) and I found out he is now having another child with someone who sounds exactly like him and they’re having the child taken straight off them his partner recently had her previous children taken off her. The point to all of this is my eldest is in his surname and it doesn’t feel right anymore but I never thought I’d be able to change it because he’d still have rights to refuse no matter what but with type of person he is and history he has I now question that… I am wanting to change my eldests name to her step dads (the one who has and always will bring her up and she adores) I’m not married to him but I’d like her to have same name has her sister and I know we will eventually marry.
I’d like to do it now if I could whilst she’s still young. Has anyone ever gone through anything similar before? Does anyone have any information about how to change her last name if I can ? Is it legal? Etc…
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