Hi can I have a private post please. I’m due to take my children away in July …
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Hi can I have a private post please.
I’m due to take my children away in July , my ex has parental responsibility and they have his surname . I have taken them away abroad numerous times alone and never had any fuss . This year my partner is coming along and now my ex is demanding where we are going flights details , hotel name etc . I really really don’t trust him with this information , he would do something like cancel it ( I’m
Not joking) or cause some problems . He is not letting up asking the children I’ve made up the details and he phones and says he rung the hotel in Spain and we are not booked in 😱. Basically this is him still trying to control my life . Any advice will be much appreciated thanks x
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Ryan I’m sorry but I haven’t got all night to tell you the exact behaviours of this person . Correct I had children with him but does that mean I have to suffer with his interference for the rest of my life ? And he can just pick and drop the children when he feels it benefits him as he isn’t consistent . Head and tails this is to be awkward funny how in the last 7 years me and my children have had holidays abroad and he has never asked once but when my partner is joining us all of a sudden this becomes and issue 🤔. I can assure you this is not for the welfare of children it’s to gain control . I totally understand you may think I want to spite him but it’s about me not having my life controlled by him . Thanks for contributing to the post 👍🏻
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He has the children 2 days a month we haven’t a set child arrangement formally .
So will the 28 days without seeking permission apply still ? Thanks everyone
He has always been a funny awkward 💩
Reply anonymously . If there was any problems my parents and family would know we speak daily and they have all the holiday details .
Can you reply anonymously please .
Ryan rice I’m so sorry I forgot to mention he spent 2 years in jail , works self employed and doesn’t pay maintenance even though he is living a very nice life . Has never been consistent and spends his time questions my children about my life it’s not for the children’s welfare at all it’s to gain control of my life . He has no right to know hotels and flight details. Sorry if I didn’t make it clear that the man who I share parental responsibility for is a complete ass ! I.e reason I left . I’m going to court to cover myself . Thanks so much for the helpful comments and opinions . The anxiety I still have being connected with a controlling person is ridiculous .
Just don’t tell him where your going, your allowed out of the country for 4 weeks without his consent, regardless if he’s got parental rights! Don’t let him ruin your holiday just ignore him if he carries on asking xx
We had a similar problem, we are taking the kids to America in less than a week. My step daughters mum said she was withdrawing her consent etc because she is still pissed off we got custody of her daughter due to ss involvement on her part etc. Our solicitor got us into court and a judge over ruled it and gave consent for her to travel with us as there was no real reason for her to withdraw consent other than to piss us off. If you are really concerned he is gonna try something I recommend going to court and getting a judge to give you written consent to leave the country with your kids. He won’t be able to do anything then x
i split from my ex just before a holiday and i thought me may cause problems as i changed his name to a girlfriends and went with her i phoned travel agents ect explained and they set me up with a password and if he rand and didnt no the password he couldnt cancell anything
If you genuinely believe that he would try to sabotage your holiday then I’d personally try get into court. Although saying that I took my daughter for 2 weeks (she has dads surname) and on way back into the country I just had to show birth certificate to prove I was mother
I’m sorry but if this was a father taken a child away would the mother not have a right to know in case something unforseen happens.if it were my children I would want to know and if I were taken them away I would be telling there mother as she has a right to know where they are just as much as I do!!!!!
I recently went to court my ex is the same. He stopped us going away on a family holiday in the UK! Anyway in court the judge told me that you don’t need permission to take your children away but he does need yours we have shared prerenting too although I used that term loosly
I wouldn’t tell him anything! Just that you’re going on holiday and that’s that. Last year I told my boys’ dad we were going away and didn’t say where etc its nothing to do with him!
aslong as u have a return ticket for within 28 days he cant do anything
What a nasty bastard!!! How cruel and selfish of him. Makes me so angry 😡
He can’t cancel your holiday for you. Only the main passenger can do that x
If its for less than a month he can’t do a thing about it x
Just lie then and give him all the wrong details
Just say you’re not taking the bf anymore
Just don’t tell him he can’t do much about it unless he takes it to court