Hi, can I have a private post please. Sorry for the long post. Just wanting some…

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Hi, can I have a private post please. Sorry for the long post. Just wanting some advice what I should do.
My son has seen his dad every Friday nights and came back home Saturday tea time. (This is the arrangement he decided was right for him) so from that I sorted out some of my working hours for a Friday night while my son was with his dad. For 4 years, he did great and stuck to his arrangements and was a good daddy to our son. For just over a year now, his just stopped sticking to his arrangements, just letting me know a few days (sometimes a day before) beforehand when he’s having our son. I had to let my employer down most Friday nights as I didn’t know what was happening and would find he wasn’t coming for our son, unfortunately I had to give up my hours for Friday’s (resulting in losing £300 a month on my wages) it’s also unsettling for our son not knowing when he’s going to his dads, we make plans to do things and his dad would text saying he’s having him, then we’d have to cancel our plans, I’ve spoken to him that it can’t go on like this anymore, it’s unfair for us especially for our son. He says he works shift but didn’t before the arrangement was made and never spoke to me about sorting out new arrangements , he had rights to say in the interview he has childcare commitments every Fridays nights til Saturday tea time but he chosed not to. He expects me to work around his needs, not our sons needs. I’ve had to deal with losing money every month for having to change my working pattern for him, it’s also affecting our sons behaviour as he has said to me he feels like an option to his dad and not a priority, this upset me so much he feels like that. I’ve suggested mediation and he said no and that I’m being selfish, unfair and that he has to have a life! He only has him once a week if that. All I’m trying to do is get a routine again for our son so we all know where we stand, so our son feels secure and happy, I don’t mind being flexible every now and then, but he’s just not having it at all. I just don’t know what to do anymore, it just can’t carry on like this working around our child’s dad whenever it suits him. I don’t want it to turn nasty and get courts involved. Anyone been through similar? Thanks
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