Hi can I have a private post please? I just found out this weekend that I’m pre…

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Hi can I have a private post please?

I just found out this weekend that I’m pregnant with my second, I’m turning 20 soon, and the father (different to my first) is over the moon but we still don’t know what to do yet. It may sound selfish, but I was so unprepared, I missed so much my last pregnancy and this one was so sudden. I’m torn, because I’ve had a bad experience after giving birth to my daughter, I got so severely depressed and I’ve only just come out of it over two years later. But I also had a very scarring Experience with my ex, I had an abortion at 7 weeks because he was abusive and the relationship was toxic and my current boyfriend was the only person that was there for me (friends at the time) but my ex sent me a lot of christian anti-abortion pages while I was waiting in the clinic on my own. And I hated myself for such a long time after 😞

So before I make my mind up, I have some questions.

Is there any way to guarantee I won’t get depressed again if We were to go through with this pregnancy, or would there be any precautions to take?

What is it like having a toddler and a baby?

How would We go about telling his family if we decide to keep the baby And when would the right time be?

If I decide I can’t do it, how would I tell my partner? He’s got no children of his own but treats my daughter like his flesh and blood, and even though he hasn’t directly said it yet, I know he wants this baby, when I said I was torn he got really upset 😞but he remains supportive no matter what and just doesn’t want to cloud my opinion at all 😞

I think my biggest question is, how do you know when you’re ready? I mean, he’s got a job, I’m with agencies working on getting back out into the world, we have a house and everything we could possibly need, but how do you know you’re emotionally ready?
My brain is telling me it’s a bad idea because of the past and how depressed I was, and I’m terrified of being like that again. Especially with my partner But my heart is telling me yes a million times, it must be baby fever. I know nobody will be able to make this decision besides us, but I want to hear other mums stories, I have no idea what I expect because I grew up with very little family, but i know if I make the wrong decision I’ll regret it for the rest of my life 😞
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