Hi, could I have a private post please. I just want to know if you think I’m in…
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Hi, could I have a private post please.
I just want to know if you think I’m in the wrong or not as I don’t feel like I am.
My mum comes round to my house every day, uninvited, sometimes just lets herself in (she has a key for emergencies) and I understand that partly it’s to see my lg but I think most of it is cause she doesn’t want to be stuck in her house all the time.
Anyway she came round the other day and I told her that she doesn’t need to come round every day and she said she does so I told her that she really doesn’t but I’m guessing she just assumed I was joking cause she continued to just come round as and when she pleased. Forward to today and I’ve text her and told her not to come around and she asked why so I’ve just told her that she doesn’t need to come round every day and that I told her that the other day, anyway she’s now in a mood and probably going to stay that way for a while but am I in the wrong for not wanting her round every single day, for just wanting some days to be just me and my daughter or me my daughter and my partner?
Tia x
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The only thing I can suggest is court so that any order can’t be broken and they will take the 12 year olds wants / needs into consideration. I know it will cost a lot of money but if she breaks a court order then the court will come down hard on her x
Your mother is the best friend u could ever have, you should be thankful she wants to spend time with u and your family! I see my parents every day, they have a key and can let themselves in whenever they like, I’d never say ther not welcome! A lot of people would give the world to have there mother pop in for chat or a cuppa just one more time, thank your lucky stars your not one of them and appreciate her a bit more.
Unless she’s staying for hours on end each day I do think you are being to harsh. She may just enjoy yours and your family’s company seeing your face everyday like you see you daughter probably gives her so much comfort. Age doesn’t effect this. If your away from your daughter for a day/night I’m sure you will miss her. One day your mum won’t be around to see you at all and you will pray she just walks through the door one last time. I think it’s quite nice she makes that effort to see you everyday, some mums make no effort and again I’m sure that would be hard too if she just didn’t bother. Mums are ment to be a little annoying it’s because they care. Maybe you could pop over to her a little more so she can still see you but not at your house every day?
I dont think you are being harsh at all.
Its natural to want a bit of space from people. Everyone is different and yes, we do get only one Mum but that doesnt mean we should/have to/want to see her every single day. It doesnt mean we love them any less. Let your Mum have her strop then sit down and speak to her calmly. Explain that you love her to bits and that its great that she wants to be around but that its nice for you to have some time and space to crack on with things.. Also, gives you more to talk about when you do see her next.
I don’t think it’s harsh at all. You’re an adult with your own family and life why would your mum need to be round every day and as for letting herself in id be so cross about that. If the key was given for in emergencies then that’s what it’s for. I have keys for my mums house that I used to live in but I don’t use it anymore nor do I use the keys I have for my brothers that are for emergencies.
I’d just go out every day then she can’t come round
I can understand where your coming from, but be grateful that she does come around and want to see you and her granddaughter. Because there’ll come a time in life where she’ll not be there anymore and you’ll wish she was coming around every single day. Xxx
My mum pops in mine for a quick bru most days as shes passing my house anyways..shes my nans carer and we live on same street as my nan. I dont see no harm. If i text her not to she would probably go in a mood also x
Don’t think your been harsh at all everyone needs their own space. X