Hi could you please post anonymously. Am looking for advice really. My ex and I …

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Hi could you please post anonymously. Am looking for advice really.
My ex and I split almost 2 years ago following domestic abuse and violence. I served him with a non-molestation order which I did all but myself. We have an almost 7 year old child together who I have never denied access or a relationship, even in the circumstances surrounding. After the non-molestation order was served on my ex there were a lot of calls made to social services and my ex refused to see our child for almost 6 months due to not wanting contact at contact centre. I started court proceedings which were rejected upon his counter claim- he claimed I’d stopped his access! The judge returned my application to my solicitor and informed my ex that he had to make the application- he never did. I explained the situation to social services and provided the order reference for their records. I found them to be extremely helpful for advice. Fast forward to now. My ex has had regular visitation with our child including overnight stays. All is not as it seems though. It has recently been brought to my attention that when his father has claimed to be looking after our child most of the time he isn’t.. our child is in the care of my ex’s brothers gf- I’m not happy about this and have on several occasions discussed this with my ex! My ex and I have moved on and both have new partners. I’m currently expecting myself so this is in no way a jealous ex situation. However my ex is still trying and failing) to control me and my home life- tries dictating when he has our child (despite a mutual arrangement being made) telling me what & when I can and cant do things, who can come to MY house etc.. Today our child knew I had to oo to the hospital for a scan and didn’t want to go to school due to wanting to attend the scan. This was not possible. Because of the fuss and excuses our child was making about not wanting to go to school my parents contacted my ex to ask for suggestions as to why this could have been the case with all the excuses (my parents know I’m pregnant). Low and behold I soon have my ex on my phone telling me im am unfit mother, can’t look after the child I already have let alone another. Passing comments about the way i parent our child. Telling me our child is dirty, I don’t feed our child and never look after the child- obviously malicious BS. Claimed he would be contacting the school for a report on our child’s welfare and in ‘what state’ our child goes to school in. He would then also be contacting social services and will be getting them to ‘pay me a visit’ and take our child off me. Of course I know all too well this isn’t actually the procedure (unless it is absolutely necessary).. So I laughed at him, told him to crack on, I’d look forward to hearing from them as he’d explained the actual circumstances our child is in when he is supposedly ‘looking after’ our child- who at his father’s doesn’t even have a bed to sleep in, has never attended parents evening or even has any interest in our childs education.Then I hung up. Does anybody have any suggestions on what I could do moving forward? I notified the school and gave them the heads up based on the fact he’s extremely abusive verbally, asked my parents not to ask for his advice in the future.
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