Hi love can I have a ppp? I’ve written in before about being pregnant and me and…
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Hi love can I have a ppp? I’ve written in before about being pregnant and me and my boyfriend wanting different things – he wants an abortion I don’t. I’m 8 weeks 3 days after a confirmed scan at the early pregnancy unit. I’m back to see them about whether we’re going ahead with abortion or keeping the baby. My boyfriend keeps pressuring me and saying he will leave me and my 1yo if I keep. I really don’t want to have an abortion it breaks my heart – however he says I’m not seeing the bigger picture. We’ve been together 5 months (he’s not my 1 yos dad) I’m studying nursing and I live back at home with my dad. My op doesn’t have his own room here but if I kept this baby I’d move out. I’m 21 and really care for my boyfriend .. I guess I’m not asking to be told what to do but some logic really? I’ve never had surgery either or been put to sleep which is what they said they would do. If I give the go ahead it’d be this friday. Thank you, I would appreciate constructive replies and no criticism as I’m trying to think of me, my partner and my li and it’s hard when we don’t agree and my head and my heart don’t either. Thank you xx
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Oh I should have said my lo doesn’t have his own room š not op
Personally if you want it and he’s forcing to to get rid of it, you’ll end up never forgiving him and always blaming him in your heart, so the relationship could break down anyway. If you’re getting rid of it to make him happy, you’ll make yourself more miserable. At the end of the day you’ve got to do what’s right for you and everything else will fall in to place. What will you regret more, loosing your boyfriend (and you’re only young) or your baby. I’m all for making the decision, as long as you’re happy with it. All too often I see people say they didn’t want to and regret it. Good luck Hun x
If you want to keep your child- don’t let anyone try to change your mind! Boyfriends come and go but your children are for life! You’ll find the strength to look after another child by yourself if needs be! I’m a single mum to 2- n though it’s hard I wouldn’t change it for the world! The decision is ultimately yours- just remember you can’t undo it once it’s done if you choose to abort xxx
You said you’ve been together 5 months, so not a big loss really is it! Get rid of HIM!! No man should ever force you into anything let alone getting rid of your own child, from the moment you know you have life inside of you, the bond begins & you start to love that little tadpol! You clearly don’t want to go through with this so if you do you know you’ll regret it & it will destroy you! Don’t think what’s best for your Boyf or for your relationship, think what’s best for that baby? You Can you give it love, protection, safety & most of all, life! Don’t let anyone dictate to you weather your child is born or not! If he wants nothing to do with you or the baby then that shoes what kind of man he is! & do you really want to be with someone like that? My lbs dad hasn’t spoke to me since the day I found out I was pregnant & hes 1 in two weeks! You man up for your child & do what it takes to put a smile on there tiny cute faces šš« Good luck with your decision x
If it was me I’d have to go through with having the baby your studies can always wait you can continue them when the kids are old enough if he pressuring you to have an abortion or he’ll walk let him walk he should have thought of that before getting jiggy
Your boyfriend might not even be around in a couple of months, if you want to keep it then do, if you are managing to study with a one yr old you will find a way to continue
If it’s a choice between a man or your child kids should win hands down every time I know it’s a lot easier said than done but what if that had been your mother making the choice about you x
Screw him! You’d kill an innocent baby, because your douche bag boyfriend wants you to? He’s threatening to leave if you don’t get rid of the child, however he didn’t have a problem laying down, and making the innocent baby. Sounds like you need to leave his ass in the dust! Your child didn’t ask to be made, and definitely doesn’t deserve to be killed.
You need to follow YOUR heart! If u don’t want one then stand as a strong independent woman. If u don’t agree you will never forgive him & the relationship will break down! If u decide to keep the baby & he doesn’t stand by you then he was never worth keeping around.
I was in the same situation, however we have a child together who is 1 this week. I told him I couldn’t do it and he told me to leave. I packed up mine & the kids essentials & went to my mums. Within two days he accepted my decision, although wasn’t happy but he came around. Now 22 weeks, back together, moving into a new home and excited to welcome his first son. Still nervous to have them so close together but he’s given me amazing support. Sometimes men don’t know how to deal with their feelings. Please don’t rush into a decision & please be sure ur making the right one for your own mental health. Good luck & if u need to chat PM me x
Think you need to keep your baby but get rid of him!! xx
If u don’t want to go ahead with it don’t he shouldn’t be pressuring you into anything my now ex tried to do the same to me now im 26 weeks with a little girl and wouldnt change it for the world
Your 21, old enough to know your own head and heart, personally if my boyfriend gave me an ultimatum like that I know what I would chose, kick him into touch and if you want that little baby you do it! If you need someone to talk to inbox me, I’ve been through an abortion and miscarriages before myself x
You have to decide what is right for you, if you have an abortion which you don’t want the long term mental side of things could become difficult for yourself. Is he looking at that bigger picture? Will he just abandon you because your too stressed or depressed because of his decision?
5 months is a very short time to have been together and given his attitude I would say leave him regardless of baby or no baby he’s acting the fool here.
I think you need to see the GP alone and explain your feelings as once you go through there’s no going back you will have lost your baby.
As for study you are able to take a gap year and go back to where you left off so that could become an option.
Good luck on your decision keep us updated x
I know how u feel my ex was the same hun and it hurts me all the time I never wanted to do it but my ex made me as he said that he will kick it out off me but I wish I did keep it hun but do not let anyone make u do it go with whatever you want to do you can inbox me if u need a chat xxx
Dont let him pressure u into something u dont wana do it has to be ur choice no one elses if hes pressuring they will ask wen u go for consultant meeting for theu asked me as i was in same situation im now 16weeks an im so glad i didn go threw with it
Don’t do it then you’ll regret it forever