Hiya. Could I have a private post please? Myself and my partner are at our whi…

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Hiya. Could I have a private post please?

Myself and my partner are at our whits end with his 2 children. His children are a girl of 7 & a boy of 3. I have a son from a previous relationship who is 5 and a Baby of 8 months together.

Their mother stops contact whenever she feels like it, normally because she feels like he doesn’t pay enough, he pays £70 more than the CMS have stated he needs to pay a month.

After 10 weeks of not seeing them, they came over this weekend and it was hell on earth.

Their manners are terrible, shouting demands at the both of us because they ‘want’ something. They are both terrible eaters and both resorted to eating mash potato with their hands. The little boy (3) ripped all the pages out of my sons reading book, broke the blind after being told numerous times not to touch it.

No matter how many times these children go on ‘time out’ or loose out on things nothing changes. We have been together for over 2 years now and this has always been the case. Nothing is changing and nothing is improving.

We suggested mediation to their mother to discuss these problems as she is still very hung up on my partner so him trying to have a conversation with her ends up in an argument over the fact he’s moved on and she hasn’t, but she has said she cannot afford it.

He mentioned the children’s manners etc to her this weekend and she laughed it off and said ‘yeah they do it all the time at mine too’ I am gob smacked!

We have contacted social services numerous times previously due to them always having clothes that don’t fit, not being bathed for weeks (7 year old tells us), his little girl said this weekend she had worn the same vest for 10 days and it stank. Their mum uses food banks and boasts about it like it’s hilarious but has money to go out clubbing most weekends, asks on local selling sites looking for someone to look after her children so she can go out drinking, at one point we cancelled a weekend away because the children were going to be left with a stranger. Her flat is disgusting, my partner took a picture of her kitchen upon collecting the children on Friday evening and there was mouldy food all on the plates and in saucepans. We have continuously produced all of this to social services and they always say ‘we will continue to support her.’ Which would be okay if things were improving!

I’m getting to a stage where I’m so fed up with them trashing my home that I don’t want them here & have suggested he stayed at another family members house with them until things get better. My little boy gets so upset when they brake his stuff etc, I wouldn’t mind if it was an accident or a one off but it’s all the time 😫

Can anyone advise me where else we can go with this?

Thank you!
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