I need advice. I’m in such a hard position right now. I have a 13 month old and …
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I need advice. I’m in such a hard position right now. I have a 13 month old and am not with his father, haven’t been sense before I got even pregnant with my 13 month old. So I got involved with my ex again (not my child’s father. A man I was with for 4 years nearly 5) we hung out for a month or so, and ended up sleeping together on Easter. I ended up feeling sick and having discharge. Went to the doctor thinking I had a uti or a yeast infection. Come to find out I’m 4 weeks pregnant. I told him about it. And the look on his face said it all. (We lost a baby a year after being together due to a miscarriage ) He’s in a good place right now and doing very well for himself. But when I told him about finding out I’m pregnant. The first thing he said was we are not in a place in our lives to have a baby. So needless to say he wants me to have a abortion. Thinks that’s the best choice for right now. But my heart is telling me no, and my mind is telling me I don’t want to set him back and put him back into a bad place. I’m torn at the thought of aborting this baby. I’m so attached and in love already. Is it wrong of me to tell him I’m going threw with the abortion but actually not go threw with it? He said it was my choice but he’s really set on me having an abortion. I don’t know what to do here! Please help!
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Can you reply: he doesn’t want the baby at all, and doesn’t even want to talk about the baby. He doesn’t live around here anymore so we can’t even talk face to face about it. Everything I explain how I’m feeling he says “I have a life of ahead of me” he just got away from very very bad things. That’s why we split up. He needed to fix himself and so didn’t i. I had a child in the process of that. He’s distant with me for that reason also. I don’t want to lie to him. And I don’t rven think I could if I did want to. I’m just confused on what to do. I don’t want this baby growing up without a father and that’s what’s scaring me the most.
Definitely do not tell him you’re gonna go through with aborting it then don’t, that’s a bit messed up, just be straight that you’re keeping the baby and if he wants to be involved then great but if he doesn’t want to be then that’s down to him, but he might even do a lot of thinking and decide he does want to be involved, just be straight with him x
Its your choice but what u have to think of is this guy doesnt want a child so if he chooses to not be involved you have to respect that and not go crazy demanding he pays up. Hes been honest enough to tell you from the word go he doesnt want tbhis child can you be happy with his choice? Im not saying your gonna hound him but think how this will affect him too xxx
Just tell him you can’t and won’t have an abortion but he can be as involved or not involved as he wants to be (although I would insist on all or nothing for the child’s stabillity). That way your honest and his state of mind isn’t your responsibility x
Dont lie, he will find out eventually. Keep the baby as u seem to have made up ur mind. Just give him the chance to be there and he may change his mind. Be prepared for him walking away though hun xx
Don’t have an abortion when you don’t want to you will regret rest of your life but don’t say you’re having one and don’t. He might change his mind when you’ve had a scan or when baby is here, you can’t lie that you haven’t had his baby he’ll find out and it won’t be good x
If you don’t want to terminate the pregnancy then don’t. Tell him the truth thou don’t lie. If you want the baby tell him there is always a chance he will change his mind when baby is here but not if you’ve lied to him about the abortion there is no going back from that. Be honest that’s the best way x
I wouldn’t lie as not good could caused problems in the future just be honest and say I’m going through with pregnancy and he either welcomed to be involved or walk away x
You cannot tell someone your having an abortion and don’t! It’s your choice but you need to be honest in whatever choice you make. X
Just tell him your keeping the baby he doesn’t have to be involved if he doesn’t want to your happy enough to do it alone, if your heart is telling you no please don’t do it, take it from me I’ve been there x
Go with your heart. If he doesn’t want to be around for the baby that’s his choice and you might just need to accept your doing it all alone. Good luck.
Don’t do it!! If you are attached and in love already and you don’t want to, you will forever regret it xx do what you want to do not what you think is best for him, it’s your precious baby ā¤ļø
I am not having a go honey but if this male didn’t want a child then he should of used a condom. Yes we can say you should have ensured you used a condom as well but I am so š” with all these males not committing using contraception and then says have an abortion what the fuck do they know of what a woman has to go through first making a decision then either going through with it or having the baby. These males and I call them males as they are not men, should watch a educational film of an abortion what it does to the woman the mental health issues for years having the regret of the decision of ending the pregnancy. God I would like to slap the lot of them š”š”š”
My partner was like this but I told him honestly I couldn’t go through with it and he came to my first scan n heard baby’s heartbeat n that was it he was attached
Am sorry but its your body, if you want the baby then you keep the baby and he will just have to deal with it, its easy for a man to just say “abortion” but they dont understand the long term effect it can have on the woman! I would just say that your keeping the baby and if he wants to be involved then fair enough but if he doesnt at least then he cant say you didnt try, but he cant force you to abort. Your clearly attached to bubs so dont tear yourself apart chick. Its his loss and your extra special gain xx
I say keep the baby and be happy you got a child to look after together as a family and if he still want you to have an abortion he’s no the right one for you to be honest
U do wots best for u as its u who has to live with ur choice. But dont lie to him be honest. He has a right to know if ur keeping baby and baby will have a right to know dad. If he chooses not to be involved then let him walk but pls be honest x
What did he think was going to happen having unprotected sex? A big screen t.v. and a years worth of Amazon prime??š¤š¤š¤
No, just tell him you’re keeping the baby and give him the choice to be involved or not. Don’t lie about it!
Why would u lie to him and how will u explain in a few months that u lied?
That would be wrong. Just tell him you’re keeping the baby
Keep your baby…and tell him your keeping it. He can be involved if he likes but don’t lie. X
If you want that baby you’re doing it on your own. Either abort and stay with him or leave and have your baby.