Just today I had a chat to my 9 and 10 yr olds about the dangers of been online …
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Just today I had a chat to my 9 and 10 yr olds about the dangers of been online and how adults pretend to be kids etc! Never to take and photos of them selves!
Just gone through the regular checking of my 10yr olds phone to find last night he asked a girl from school to take a picture of her private area!! She didn’t thankfully and I’ve confiscated his phone (which he will find out about in the morning) until I can trust him again! I’m so angry with him and in two minds about waking him at 11:40pm!
I thought I’d been doing alright they have always known the underwear rule from when they had an understanding!
Is this an age where boys start becoming aware of their bodies?
What if I’m called into the office at school, do I just inform the head myself before the girls mother does?
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Puberty means they will explore and push boundaries ….you have found it before any damage was done ….I would let the girls parents know he has made an indecent request and their daughter refused ….good for her ….As for the school not sure as it won’t help your situation with him….He needs to realize there are consequences for this behaviour and it sounds like you are on top of it
I wouldn’t speak to the school, as they may raise questions about why he knows about and wants to see girls in that way at a young age.
Only in my opinion, a 10 year old doesn’t need a phone! It’s completely your choice as a parent but cut all this off at the source before it goes further.
I would speak to the girls parents and explain messages they were exchanging etc.. better to make parents aware, as she could be talking in that way to people she doesn’t know.
I’d say yes, speak to the school, there is most likely other kids having very similar conversations so the teachers can act accordingly in advising/teaching the dangers of why this shouldn’t happen etc & notify all parents to be vigilant & check their children’s phones. I also think the girls parents need to know, but unless they are people u know well then it’s probably best they are told anonymously by the school as I know how I’d feel & react if I was told by the mother of a boy who had made such a request to my daughter. (& yes I do also have 2 sons so I do see both sides of the parent issue).x
I’d speak to the school, they aren’t there to scare you into thinking every issues will result in an inquest of your parenting! People worry but actually they will of no doubt come across this problem before and will have some good advice for you. As we know sometimes you can tell your child no a million times and the second you turn round they will go and do it! Hopefully the school will have ways in which you can explain the subject to him in a different way to previously and it might be a way that actually gets the message through to him. Luckily nothing came from his request but by not tackling the issue now and by just punishing without fixing your risking there being a next time and it not being so innocent. Gooodluck xxx
speak to the school it may save a lot of trouble if you’re open about it as things like this have a tendency to come back and bite you.
I’d speak to her parents, him & keep his phone until he can be a lot more grown up & sensible x
I’m not sure why you would involve the school. Your the parent not the school. Talk to the parents of the girl and that should be enough.
A ten year old doesn’t need a phone, end of!!
I’d say yes speak to the school xx