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Am a single mum who still lives at home and am in my late 20s. Now I know instantly everyone will be saying moving out is what I should do but it’s just not that easy.
I pay board at home , pay for shopping and last few months cover some of my parents bills. Not including my own bills and anything that my lad needs.
I was working from home but it wasn’t steady and I’ve been wanting to move out so took on a full time job which my parents told me would be great and things would work out as they would easily help with child care. I should of went with my gut but no I listened to them. I’ve always had a rocky relationship with them as it’s one minute things are fine and the next it’s screaming matches and I get the they baby sit for me thrown in my face.
Today has been the worst. I was meant to be working and I’ve had to come home cause my mums screaming about how she’s sick of my boy giving her cheek. Now don’t get me wrong he’s no angel but he’s a great kid and she’s the only person who ever complains about him. All this over him cleaning his room. If my son was to leave a cup or his dirty socks which might I add whose kid hasn’t done this she goes screaming bonkers. So I told him today under no circumstances has he to do anything else but get his room sorted but he wasn’t to do it until his gran woke up so I wasn’t banging around. So off I went. Thought it would be fine but no. I was told I was to come home she was no longer looking after him. I’ve raced home to find she screamed at him , told him he’s nothing but hassle, bad mouthed me and told both of us were nothing but trouble , am a terrible mother and he’s nothing but a liar. As I told him to do his rooms and nothing else today as in no xbox or telly until it’s sorted and she’s flipped out.
Now I love my parents but my mum is one of those people one minute she’s my best friend and the next she’s screaming and going off on one. It’s got worse over the years and am not the only one she does it with. The family all know what she’s like. But I know instantly they won’t say anything or back me as they won’t want to upset her.
My son swears she told him she wished he was never born but she said she never did say that but honestly I can see her being in that state of rage and saying it.
I honestly can’t stand it anymore and I can’t have my son being made to feel that bad.
I don’t have any savings due to paying so much out, am now worried il lose this job cause I honestly don’t have anyone that can have my son the days am working and am still in my trail and don’t finish to 8pm. I’ve been on the council list for 5 years and never got anything just due to my parents property. My son is now sleeping in my room as they keep kicking off so sharing a bed.
I’ve no idea what to do or where to go. Can anyone suggest what I can do or say with council or even what options there are for childcare or just lend a ear.
I don’t have many friends cause if am honest if am not at work am with my son. I honestly don’t know what to do.
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