Please can you post this question anomalously. I’ve been with my husband for 11…

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Please can you post this question anomalously.

I’ve been with my husband for 11 years and pretty much the only thing we have argued about over the years is sex/intimacy. He has a much higher drive than I have ever done.

We have argued again today as I came home and enthusiastically mentioned how I intend to during my maternity leave clear out the loft, sell bits towards our holiday spending money and clear space. He was upset that I didn’t come home enthusiastic about having sex with him/a challenge idea. His point being why am I so keen to spend my time off sorting the loft but not sorting our sex life/”taking care of business”.

He has on average an orgasm every other day, sex is usually once a week by his choice. We have a 3 year old and an 8 week old. He is keen on sex challenges i.e. having lots of orgasms in one session/time period; into restraints etc. This puts me off to be honest as I’d rather have sex to be intimate with my husband, to be close, to be loving and to use restraints every now and again etc. I have explained this but he always says that’s what his into and that he has needs etc. I also logistically struggle between caring for our children to give the time that his ‘needs’ require and I think he is therefore quite unrealistic. I have said all of this to him.

Does anyone else have the same issue? X
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