Please post anon……I need know if im overreacting. It was my sons party today…
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Please post anon……I need know if im overreacting. It was my sons party today and my husband was going to be there just after the start when he’d finished work (self employed) but he ended up not coming because he had loads of work to do. I asked him what was more important your sons party which will never happen again or work that he could have left and done later,and he had the cheek to call me selfish. Im really hurt that he’s put work first and missed his son’s birthday party. Am i being unreasonable???
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It’s hard when they are self employed. Not always easy to drop everything. Maybe he is under a lot of pressure at the moment maybe he isn’t telling you everything so you don’t worry. My husband is self employed and I have seen it when he gets snappy usually it’s because he is overwhelmed with a problem or just simply taken on to much. Talk to him. Personally I hate kids parties though so would love a reasonable excuse for not having to attend. Yes even my own! 😂
Him getting the work done could be the difference between getting paid and not getting paid. It really depends on the work that needed doing …. when you are self employed it’s not as easy as thinking “sod it, I’ll do it tomorrow” sometimes x
I understand your frustration and anger but in my opinion, a Dad doesn’t miss their child’s birthday without good reason! Unless it was your baby’s first birthday, I’d cut him some slack! However if my partner missed our baby girls first birthday, I’d be heartbroken!
I understand where you’re coming from hun but when you’re self employed you need all the work you can get. As long as your child had a good day, all that really matters. Im sure he had a blast. 😊 xx
That’s the problem when you’re self employed, there are no set finish times. You are there until the job is done. If you don’t put in the hours you don’t get paid. I’m sure your son enjoyed his party regardless and that’s all that matters x
It depends how much importance u put on a birthday party by the sound of it ur son will have a party evety year so will u expect ur husband to come home from work every year? For me myself not self employed have missed many birthdays becos i had to work no biggie for me cos therell be plenty more to go to
They have birthdays every year I’m guessing this is the first he has missed as you havnt said other wise. Last year my partner didn’t make my son’s birthday party due to work but my son didn’t notice as he has lots of family and friend and I also didn’t mind as if he didn’t work we wouldnt have the things we do. I think your completely going over board there’s always next year and year after an so on……
I think it’s totally understandable if he is self employed then the job needs doing there’s nobody who has his back to do it for him, as long as he was there to see him open his pressies then say goodnight that’s what your son will remember x
He wil hav another birthday next year, it wouldn’t bother me he had to work he had to work..
I understand he needs to work but finishing an hour earlier wouldnt have hurt him so he could spend an hour at the party
Not if he could have actually done the work another time, if he couldn’t leave it then he should have explained that
Men don’t get excited n stuff like us mum’s. . This isn’t his only birthday dear.. there are more..
I have been in this situation and I felt exactly the same my kids Dad put everything before his kids
I would b fuming
No not at all. He could have come even for an hour.
I would be so angry to 😡