Post please. Where do I start! 5 years ago I was in an abuse and emotional rel…
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Where do I start! 5 years ago I was in an abuse and emotional relationship. After 9 month it was over but shortly after I found out I was pregnant. He found out, I told him I wasn’t pregnant because I knew how his was. He turn round and said if you are pregnant I hope you losses it and it has something wrong with it 😡 so he does not know at all about my boy. I got with someone who has taken him on as his own sins he was born. Sins then we have had two of are own. But I really don’t want to keep it a secret no more I’ve had 5 years of holding it in. I think about it all the time it does my nut in! But I know I have to. But I just can’t take it 😣 I really don’t know what to do. As any one else been where I am?
Thank you x
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Can you reply to this lady please….
I have a 5 year old daughter who has been raised by her dad since she waz born.He isn’t her biological father but my situation was similar to yours with the abuse etc We are no longer together and he still treats her like his own, pays for her and has her every other weekend with her younger brother. I am the same as you though always thinking about when do I tell her…. I have decided to wait till she is around 8/10 maybe a bit older. I want her to be able to understand properly. I totally understand how you feel as I think about it all the time to but my daughter is so so happy that right now I’m not going to confuse her, my ex is an amazing dad and I hope they will always have the bond they do no matter what.
Also could you put on my post. I wouldn’t say it’s my sons best interest to have him in his life as I know he still the same old prick he was back then. But I that he has 4 half siblings from all different mums! Also I fill bad for his mum, dad and little sister for not knowing! I’ve also kept this to myself apart from my dad, so my partner does not know how I’m filling about this I don’t know how to tell him 😟 xx
Do you want to tell your son? If so tell him now but only if you want his dad to be apparat if his life, if not and I know it’s a long wait until he’s older between 15/16 so he understands more, that’s what I would do (I haven’t been in this situation myself tho) x
How does ur now partner feel about u telling people. I do believe that every child has the right to know their blood parents but also know as a mother of 4 and 2 step children if it is in ur child’s interest to keep it secret (abuse drink drugs etc) then only u can make the call
Being the child in this situation I would tell him now! I found out my paternal family wasn’t my family between 13-15 my life shattered into pieces I felt as if everything was a lie everyone around me knew apart from me it was horrible! 😞