Pp so basically my niece is going through an abortion she’s 6 weeks pregnant and…
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Pp so basically my niece is going through an abortion she’s 6 weeks pregnant and I don’t really hear from her slot but because of this she’s messaged me asking for advice and support etc… She asked me to attend the appointment with her but I’ve got children and I’ll also be 34 weeks myself…. I’ve explained to her that I won’t come with her cuz of the kids she’s now asked me if she can come back to mine after she’s taken the tablet to basically have the misscarrige I’m also not comfortable with this either but I’ve told her it’s fine untill I come up with an excuse what can I say???? It’s her choice shes 100 percent going ahead with it I don’t want to get involved but I also don’t want to witness that happening what can I say xxx
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Please add to my post she’s 18 her parents and myself don’t speak as her mom is cow to me to out or nicely…. She won’t tell them. I dont think I’m selfish for protecting my own children from seeing something like that but of course I don’t want to leave her own her own I don’t have anyone to watch the children other than my partner and we can’t go to he house as her parents will be there I’m stuck in what to do plus being heavily pregnant myself. I’m also scared that something may go wrong as I will be the one picking up the pieces X
Please add to my post it’s not the fact that I don’t want to support her I have my partner who will be working all day then coming home to my niece here in bits and in aggony plus two children and 6 and 4 that I will have to explain everything to…. She wants to stay the night I’m happy to support her but I just don’t want to drag myoen family into it so thinking I should mayb suggest a night stay in a hotel.. I’ll go with her xx
Please addI have spoke to my partner he has said he doesn’t want to come home from work seeing that either it’s her choice but he doesn’t want it round our children or him so I have decided I’m going to stay in a hotel with her for the night so I can be there for her as a support Xx
Wow how selfish are you! “Drag your family into it” she is your family! I feel so sorry for that girl if the only person she has to turn to is you. Let’s hope your not ever in need of some support.
Personally I would just support her, it’s her body and her choice and she will need as much support as she can and not to be pushed away xx
It depends on the circumstances of the abortion. If it’s for medical or psychological reasons then help as much as you can without putting your family under strain. If it because the pregnancy is inconvenient, then don’t get involved if you don’t want to. Many people say her body her choice. Ok then….She should deal with the consequences and aftermath.
I would let her stay & put her to bed with thick towels painkillers a hot water bottle & some tissues. It will be like a very heavy painful period. Have some compassion shes still a teenager & she obviously trusts you. Your kids dont need to know & your fella doesnt need to be involved
You sound like the only person she can turn to, tbh you sound selfish for not wanting to be there for her. Put your feelings aside and be the support network she needs x
I think there’s a reason she came to you bless her 💔
All she needs is support right now, even just someone to sit with her, it can’t be easy for her..
Bite your tongue and support your niece don’t have her going through this alone xx
Just be honest and tell her you’re being selfish and don’t want to alter a couple days of your family life to help her through something that is going to be hard. Make sure she knows you “don’t want your family dragged in”. Obviously I’m being sarcastic and you shouldn’t be palming her off with excuses! At 6 weeks there isn’t going to be much baby to pass, you don’t have to sit and watch her!! Just a warm safe place, a cuppa and a cuddle. I hope your daughter never turns to a member of your family and is dismissed in such a way, especially in these circumstances.
You sound selfish.. she Came to you for Support and you Turned her away… i would go If someone asked me too from my Family.. ur Only Thinking of urself!!.. i dont Agree with what ur doing at all!! I would 100% without a doubt Support Her. You don’t have to tell ur children. You can Just be there!! Isn’t Asking Much.
You wouldn’t need to see anything she should be cleaning it all up herself I don’t think you need to actually be in the bathroom with her but it’s your house and if you feel uncomfortable don’t do it x
I think she really needs your support must be hard for her and her own reasons why she’s doing this.. your her auntie and she’s needs someone with her and she knows your pregnant but still asked you x if that was my niece I would be there 100% x
She is probably scared and nervous. She needs someone, and that someone is you. I don’t think you have to watch her pass the baby. I could be wrong though. You could get a hotel, and stay there with her. Just the two of you. I understand your feelings, especially since you are pregnant. Unfortunately life doesn’t always hand you what you want or need. Life is real, and sometimes hard. Love her so she can heal from this and move on.
I’m actually shocked that your only thinking of yourself while you’re niece has asked you to be there for her at such a difficult time! I’d be the last person im thinking of if someone close to me was going through this! Absolutely crazy!
Support her, we all have different views and opinions, you may not agree ext but she sounds like she desperately needs your support. If my niece came to me in this situation, I’d support her no shadow of a doubt x
I’d 100% let my niece stay, me being pregnant or not. I’d wanna make sure she’s okay and looked after…
Plus I wouldn’t want her going through that alone :/ x
I would just tell the family she isn’t well and to leave her alone for a while. They don’t need to know what’s happening. I’d tell the oh woman’s problems and he won’t ask questions and just be there for her x
Your children don’t need to know what’s going on, you can just tell them she’s poorly. She needs support bless her and you should feel proud that she’s come to you for help
She won’t have an abortion at your house she will go to the ward two days after for that.. it’s just a tablet to stop the hormone.
Your not being selfish don’t listen to people with comments like that as I would be the same, she honestly shouldn’t have asked with you being heavily pregnant and with kids x
If it was a memeber of my family (although I am against abortion) if I new they was going to go through with it with or without any support id rather be there to support them than have them go through it alone. She is your family an if u didnt want her there then u need to be straight with her an not making up excuses.
When I had mine the only way I got through it (same procedure) was because of my family! I was in my Nana’s bedroom with a hot water bottle and sleeping. I don’t think she will be in any fit state to be around the kids or house, even if you let her stay in your room or spare room and just check in on her every now and again after a couple of hours if like mine it was over and I just watched tv x
She came to you for a reason she may not feel comfortable anywhere else I would let her stay yes it won’t be nice but you are family and she is really young
Just be honest with her u can only do what u feel comfortable with explain that u want to support her but finding it difficult it also affects us mentally