Ppp. I need some advice. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years. We bo…

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Ppp. I need some advice. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years. We both had children when we met. I have a now 8 year old and he has a now 6 year old. We have a 1 year old child together. We used to have his Daughter every weekend for one night to stay over. The last few months it’s been really difficult. The child’s mother texts most weeks during the week to say she is getting upset and doesn’t want to come over. She would prefer it if he/we just went to their house to see her, or took her out and brought her back. When she comes to stay, she is absolutly fine. Few tears when we pick her up and before bedtime for her Mum but apart from that, no issues. He has a great relationship with her, always has done. We all do. I try my best to be a good step-mum, and I think I am. Me and her father have a good relationship, a lovely home, etc. We make the effort to have nice days out when she comes. There is no reason why she doesn’t want to stay, she never gives one to us or her Mum and Step Dad. I can understand why her Mum sometimes thinks she shouldn’t come over, his Daughter can get really upset at times when we pick her up and it isn’t3 nice to see. It must be distressing for her Mum to see, but she soon calms down when she is with us. The problem is that we used to just take her regardless of if she was crying. Now the crying is getting more frequent and worse when we pick her up, and her staying with us is becoming less and less. This is really affecting my partner, and all of us. I want my Sons to have a good relationship with their sister but it’s hard if they’re only seeing her once a fortnight. In my opinion, she needs to come regardless of how upset she is, without sounding harsh. My Son sometimes complains about having to go to his Dad’s but I send him regardless because he has to see him and have a relationship with him. Her Mum says she is not sending her Daughter when she is that upset and she needs to start and listen to what she wants. At 6 years old she thinks it’s acceptable to pick and choose when she comes over. If there was a reason why she didn’t want to then we could sort that out but there isn’t. What would other people do in this situation? Me and my partner are at a loose end.
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