PPP ive posted before about being pregnant with a baby I didnt want. I got caug…
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ive posted before about being pregnant with a baby I didnt want. I got caught while on the pill and i couldn’t bring myself to have an abortion. Im now 8months pregnant and struggling to bond with the baby I’m soon to give birth too. I really just domt want this baby, i didnt want it from the begining but i was hoping id learn to love the baby. I love my 2yr old daughter to pieces so i dont know why I feel like this. I feel like the world’s worse person for having these feelings. It’s driving me to the point where i no longer want to live myself. I dont talk about my feelings to anyone as my partner told me I was attention seeking before. Just a little advice on how to cope would be great. Thankyou
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You need to tell your midwife about these feelings. It may be different after you have the baby it may not but midwife needs to be fully aware to give both you and the baby the best chances (i.e. maybes adoption, medication)
Its common to not bond with your baby. Especially as its unplanned. And u read all these stories about instant love…ill be honest i never got that when my first was born 10 years ago. I loved him from as soon as he was born. But i never felt as though i bonded…it took til he almost choked on a grape at about 4 months old for me to realise i could never be without him and then i knew id love him til the day i died..it does get easier. It will get better and im sure all ur natural instincts will kick in. But dont worry if its not straight away…ur normal and u will do a cracking job 😍
When that baby is placed in your arms and your exhausted through giving him/her life I can place my life on it that all your doubts will melt away. Maybe it’s fear of having to love/cope with another, there was a reason why you didn’t abort and that reason will come to love you in a few weeks time. Good luck ❤
You won’t be the first one and you won’t be the last. I was in the same position. The baby was planned but I went through a lot of shit while pregnant and I really didn’t want to be pregnant I couldn’t bond with my bump but when I gave birth I loved her so much. I look back now and hate myself for it. Wait till baby is here and see how you feel then xxx
Prenatal depression… I had this and took tablets to help! My baby girl is the best thing to ever happen to me, I felt that as soon as my baby was placed in my arms
You can suffer from antenatal depression too…definitely worth mentioning your feelings to MW/GP