PPP? RELATIONSHIP ADVICE PLEASE Ok so this is pretty long so I’ll shorten it a…
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PPP?
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE PLEASE
Ok so this is pretty long so I’ll shorten it as much as possible. Basically I was on the pill and using condoms, I however fell pregnant regardless, I won’t sit and bitch how neither protection worked as there is ALWAYS a risk when you have sex. I’m a big girl and so therefore I got over it pretty quickly and now I have a beautiful 11 month old I wouldn’t change for the world. My partner told me when I was 8 months pregnant he was transgender. I then discovered so many things he’d been up to behind my back. He’s forever on chat sites and anytime we have an argument he will get abusive, verbally mostly calling me every name under the sun. Yesterday I took my son out of the house because he had started a fight with me over my tone of voice when replying to what he said. His parents have told him that if he transitions into a woman they will have nothing to do with him. He is starting his counselling next month and plans to go through the whole transition. He’s decided all of this without consulting me and if I tell him I’m in anyway worried about any of it because of our son etc he just blows up and becomes an absolute demon. Constantly tells me to f off and focus on my own life. He hasn’t worked since the day my maternity started as he needed time to ‘sort himself out’ I’ve been struggling so much trying to keep a roof over our heads. He constantly goes on and on about where I grew up as being a shit hole because he grew up in a more upper class place and we now have a house I can’t afford on my own. One he forced me to take as our previous place was ’embarrassing’ to bring his family to. If it wasn’t for his job seekers we’d have lost this house. He has just got a job yesterday and has already made comments like ‘why don’t you do anything useful?’ ‘You should get a job and stop feeling sorry for yourself etc. I tried to leave him a few months ago but my family don’t speak to me (something else he mocks me for during arguments) He puts his family above me and his son every time and they don’t even know he’s planning on transitioning again because he’s said he is and isn’t trans so many times now. At the minute I can’t leave him as if I kick him out he won’t help me with the rent with this place and child support willl not be enough to cover it. I don’t want to end up homeless with my son as he is constantly threatening to take him off me yet he NEVER interacts with him or does anything for him. He has never sacrificed anything for anybody else yet expects everyone else to. When I cry or get upset he tells me I need to stop being so mentally ill and for a long time had me convinced I was. I don’t j is what advice I’m looking for but I don’t have anyone to speak to. I’m so alone and so scared that because of him my son is going to have a terrible future with him. But if I leave him he’ll get split custody as his family will help him fight a case against me as they will do anything to get rid of the trans issues. I have no family or friends and I fear that will make him look like the better option in court where the judge doesn’t know either of us.
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