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This is gunna be a long one but im desperate for help 😓 ill have been with my boyfriend a year in 7 days. Recently found texts on his phone to prove hes been cheating and hes now changed his password. He refuses to let me look on his phone, he goes under the blanket when he goes on it but he keeps telling me he loves me and we are meant to be and im the only girl for him. He wont talk about it all he just says ‘carry on im going out’ im desperate to save us. Iv triied being nice and iv tried being a bitch and saying hes welcome to her. But its like he dont care when i say i want him he says he wants me too.. when i say i wanna split he says ok but dont moan when you see me with another girl and it hurts you!!!!! Then i always go crying and begging him back. Im due to have our son in 2weeks, this is making me so ill i cant stop being sick, having panic attacks and i generally cant eat or drink just the smell of any food or pop makes me throw up. I dont know what to do. Iv packed his stuff and told him to leave but he wont go.. and he wont cut this other girl off either and still adding loads more girls on fb messaging them. We have been next to perfect up untill the last 2 weeks. Im so down and depressed we have a 2 year old i struggle to even get out of bed i struggle with day to day thongs i have physocal pains in my chest to the point i cant breathe. What do i do?????? Its no good for my babies i know but how can i stop it hurting this bad??? Im so petrified of losing him but hes risking giving me diseases im petrified!!!! Need advice desperately!!!!!!!
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Im already having calls from womens aid due to a police officer witnessing him pulling my hair in public so have to go to domestic violence classes. I just need a way out iv got no friends.. all my family work full time then when their at home im straight round but everytime his names mentioned or i see a cute couple on the telly or my mom and dad have a kiss and cuddle i break down (they dont do it anymore) but im just gettin in everyomes way but everytime im on my own i start passing out and go jelly legged and cry to the point my whole belly back and face hurts. I just cant stop i cant go on anti depressants due to being pregnant. I feel trapped i cant let go of him and its making it 10x harder that he keeps coming back!!!!!!
I’ll tell you how to stop it hurting . Get rid !!!!! Might hurt for a while but after a few weeks you’ll realise what a loser he was and you’ll start to smile. Don’t let him mug you off anymore . Focus on your babies . If he won’t leave call the police or dig a grave in garden 😉 x
Aww hun. Is he really worth all this heart ache and stress. If he really cares about u and your kids he wouldn’t be putting you through this. He doesn’t love you if he did he wouldn’t do this. Tell him it’s over get his shit together and leave it outside next time he goes out. If u mean as much as he makes out u do then give it a couple weeks n he will be banging on your door to come back. If he don’t then it’s his loss. A single mum is better for your babies than a broken upset mum. U gotta show your babies your strong n u can do this. Yes it’s hard but u can do it something clicks inside u n u jus get on with it. Don’t rely on a man n don’t let him bring u down you are worth so much more xx
He’s having his cake and eating it and your letting him, you do not need somebody like this in your life , it’s going to be super hard but you no what , would you rather be on your own and not have the worry and anxiety he is bringing to you and not to mention the disrespect he has for you . Do you have a daughter? Just think about when she’s older would you want her to go through this? No so you shouldn’t be putting yourself either you deserve more and he’s clearly blind , you have given him the best gift ever and that’s children and this is how he respects you.
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Oh hun!!! This is emotional abuse, your pregnant with his child and he has zero respect for you, he isn’t bothered how much knowing he has cheated is killing you. Please get out now, find the strength and tell him to get lost, walk away and don’t look back. He wants the best of both, someone at home then a bit on the side when it suits him. Have some self respect hun, you deserve so much better & you know that. If he finds someone else them let them get on with it, he’ll do the same to them that he’s doing to you, he’s never going to change. If have kicked his nuts. xxx
Id say leave him…and concentrate on your pregnancy. You deserve a million times better than that tell him to f off and just make sure your ok and your unborn child is not stressed from your stress. You need to show him your the bigger person and can hold your head high and he isn’t your priority bcus end of the day he isn’t your unborn child should be.
He has you wrapped around his finger i know how hard this is because i have been through the same not exact but similiar. He has control of you and he is playing you, the only way to escape this day to day nightmare is to take control of your life for you and your babies, it will be hard and yes it will hurt but if you dont take that stand it will only get worse. You need to take control, you know what is right and wrong and instinct is always right. Do what you need to do for a happy life!! If he acts like he dont care then he dont, only when you have respect for yourself will anyone else. Xxx
I hate to say this as I’ve been there m, fortunately enough there were no children involved but I know how hard it is to walk away. But for ur own health and sanity leave. No woman deserves to play second best, he doesn’t deserve ur loyalty and it will be him who will regret it. The grass is always greener but he will eventually realise what he has lost And hopefully by then u will be strong enough n happy enough to say “jog on”
You dont think enough of yourself to get rid of him for your wellbeing so PLEASE do it for your kids!! I rarely get upset reading shit on here but this has really got to me. Listen to all the ladies above that have been there , got rid and moved on. Your kids come first.
Why are you petrified of losing him? He is abusive. He cheats. You want your child around that?! He clearly doesn’t give a shit and is continuing to do it because you’re letting him.
Please love we’re all saying the same thing , it seams hard now but you no what you will feel amazing in a few weeks it will be like a huge weight lifter xx
Sounds like you’re dating my ex 😂
But on a serious note, leave him. It’s not a healthy relationship, get out while you still can x
Also if there are witnesses to him hurting u, they should be able to help with housing, speak to them and tell them u want out c
Omg get out, get as far away from him as you humanly can! It may seem like you can’t right now but trust me, when you do it and come out the other side you will thank yourself for it as you will be stronger for it. He’s not worth this stress, he’s literally having his cake and eating it. Leave, your so much better than that, you NEED to know that 💖
Your so much better off on your own with the children… please never plead for a man to stay with you , if he really had respect and loved you enough he wouldn’t treat you like this .
Aww darling your post realy made me sad! Firstly u need to realise u are worth a thousand times more than him! Secondly if he realy loved u he wouldn’t treat u the way he is! Ino that’s probably not nice to hear but it’s true babe the only advise I have is try and find your worth and kick him to the curb! Ino that’s easyer said than done but as a mum u need to put yourself and your children first and this is clearly no good for any of u! He will be the one that’s sorry in years to come when u have your 2 kids with a great life and he decides it’s time he settled down because then u can stick 2 fingers up and say fuck u, u had your chance u throw it away! I wish u and your kids the best and hope your find your inner strength 😘 x
Would think of urself and ur children u don’t need him in ur life he will treat u like shit carry on cheating on u cos u let him he thinks the grass is greener and the other side so let him have his way and tell him to fuck off he will soon realise what he has lost and u will learn by the mistakes u have don’t the hard part by asking for help please take advice from the people on here most of us have probably been where u are and learned not to be treated like dirt
Think of ur little one and ur baby don’t need to think about him
Good luck hunni
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Aww big hugs you just need to put yourself and children first I’m sure your family will help and support you when they can just keep your head high hun xx
I no easier said then done just get rid seems like a selfish prick that don’t care but I said I no easier said then done men no how to play I love u line …
Ive been through the same i lost everything and everyone im here if you need to talk xxxx
Pack his bags!why is he still even there.he has no respect for u at all.x
I know it’s easy for people to say but LEAVE. He’s awful, find someone who shows they love you
I didn’t even read to the end… get rid
Think deep down u know what u should do . . .
Get rid.