Private post please. Please please help. Need opinions. So my friend found out s…


Private post please. Please please help. Need opinions. So my friend found out she can’t have children and might go for surrogacy.
When she left the hospital she asked her husband-to-be only to tell his parents. Anyway he told his uncle over fb and then when my friend asked him if he had told his uncle he said no twice. She looked on his phone because she knew he might be lieing and found out he had told him and when she asked him about it he said he was upset he felt he needed to talk to some about it because he didn’t want to burden her with everything because she was upset. She is upset that he lied to her but more upset he told his uncle. Now she feels she can’t trust him. She is due to get married in 2 weeks. Do you think she is blowing it out of proportion and he did just needed someone to talk to or is she right in being really angry like she can’t trust him. Please please help x


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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    I think she’s blowing it out of proportion, he just wanted someone to talk to without causing more stress on her by the sounds of it. Also if you know about this then she clearly hasn’t just told her family and has confined in a friend.

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    Definitely blowing it out of proportion! He’s upset too and needed someone to talk too! She told him to only tell his parents yet she’s told you?!? Maybe he can’t talk to his parents about it so went to his uncle instead!

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    I think shes blowing it out of proportion you have to remember that this isn’t only her troubles it his. He also can’t have children of his own as a result of her not being able to have children I think it’s very unfair for her to expect him not to be able to confide in someone yet shes allowed to confide in you. I understand shes going through a emotional time but so is he and asking him to keep quiet about a life changing matter is unfair to him completely.

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    tbh shes probably over reacting a bit i get hes lied to her but shes told him to only tell parents when shes gone and told you who isnt family either maybe he felt he could talk to his uncle like she confided in a friend

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    I think it’s an over reaction on her part. It’s an emotional thing to go through, if he wants to tell his uncle, what’s the harm?

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    When things like that happen it affects both of the people cos obviously he loves her and wants a family with her, he obviously needed someone to talk to and felt his uncle was the person to turn to, yes he shouldn’t have lied but maybe didn’t want to upset her anymore than she obviously is and she was also wrong going through his phone so wrong doing on both sides tbh

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    He shouldn’t of lied when she asked, but I respect the fact he was venting to someone, because so many people hold stuff in, and it just makes it worse to be honest, I also respect the fact he didn’t want to put a burden on her, since she’s probably really down at the moment, I know I’d be after hearing that. It’s not like he went and told someone else, atleast it was a family member.

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    I think they’re both right in a way. Her partner is going to need people to talk to as well. Although it’s her than can’t have children physically, it affects him too as it means he also can’t have children. If he’s close to his uncle and that’s who he preferred to confide in, I think that’s his choice. But at the same time she’s obviously dealing with a lot, so he should’ve been upfront from the start and said it was his uncle he was choosing to confide in. I would say she shouldn’t be reading his messages though, because he is going to need somewhere private to discuss his feelings without upsetting her, and vice versa too.

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  • 27th May 2017 at 9:22 am
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    It’s fair enough asking him not to tell anyone but at the same time that must have broke his heart aswell. I think it’s very selfish of your friend to stop him speaking about it with people he obviously feels he can trust. As much as it breaks your friends heart, it breaks his just as much as he can’t have children solely with the woman he loves. I think she needs to understand that it isn’t ALL about her. Yeah it’s very sad but he is going through the same as her. If he can find some support in someone, it’s only 1 other person, then I think she should support that. But at the same time he shouldn’t have lied. But men aren’t the same as women they don’t think often. Just my opinion though x

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