Private post please… Sorry for the long post guys but really need some advice…

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Private post please…

Sorry for the long post guys but really need some advice as I feel really stuck in the middle, here goes-
I split with my children’s father in 2016, he is still very much involved in their lives and I wouldn’t want it any other way, the problem I’m having is that my new partner, started dating beginning of last year, has a huge problem with the fact that their father is still in the picture, he doesn’t like me speaking to him, doesn’t like him coming to the house and most certainly doesn’t like it if me, children and dad doing things together, ie birthday treats, school plays etc… he says he doesn’t see why we have to be friends, Iv explained to him that I am and always will continue to do what is best for my children and if that means showing them that me and their dad can have a normal relationship without any arguments and both be there for them then that’s what I have to do, I have no reason to be off with their dad, he’s not a horrible person, we just didn’t work as a couple…!! By no means am I slagging my partner off, he’s great and him and my children get on beautifully but I told him at the beginning that it was going to be hard and if at any point it got to much for him I fully understand if he wants to walk away, raising children is hard, even harder when they are not yours and even more so when the ex is still around.

Can I just add I never leave my partner out of anything, we do celebrate their birthdays as-well, always first in fact and he has been to every school event there has been, except parents evening…. if we have plans then we always go ahead with them, children’s dad just works round us really.

I just don’t know how much more of the arguments I can take, it’s getting too much, my children have even started to pick up on it all and will say, mummy please can I see my dad today or will * ( partner) be mad..!! This is not how I want my children to live..!! I want them to know that we are all here for them and we all love them but I feel like it’s getting to the point where I have to choose between my children and my partner (always will be my children).

Thanks for reading guys, any advice is much appreciated and please no bashing I’m just trying to do what’s best for my babies…!!
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