Private post please: My partner and I have been together for 8 years.. been thro…

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My partner and I have been together for 8 years.. been through a lot, he’s got two kids from a prev relationship who we see a lot and have a good relationship with and we’ve got one 10 month old together which was planned as we wanted to start a family.
He used to work really hard for us and do as much as possible for us at home. But two months ago he started acting distant saying he’s stressed out… started doing less for me and the baby, staying at work late.. going out drinking a lot, not contributing much to family life. About 5 weeks ago I found out he’s texting and flirting with a girl at work – I’ve no concrete evidence of anything further than this but I have my suspicions. When I found out he promised to stop… he didn’t, I found out again. Again he promised to stop.. but didn’t. The third time I caught him it blew up into a massive fight and argument, he admitted to liking this girl not seriously but as in he enjoys texting her and likes the attention but would never leave me for her or anyone else and would never do anything physical as he loves me and only me and ‘hardly even talks to her anymore just around at work’. Since then he has put locks on his phones and changed all his passwords to things.. which only made my paranoia worse. He said he is sick of me looking through his things as if makes me crazy and paranoid and he doesn’t like it and that he has stopped contacting this girl. But if I didn’t like these new rules of him having his privacy then I should leave.
It’s been hard as we have been together so long and have a baby, also before this happened we had plans to try for another baby next year and get married eventually. We had a massive blow up at the weekend and he told me he didn’t want to be a family anymore and he hated me. The next day he tells me he loves me but thinks we need a break and he wants to go and rent somewhere else for a while so we can get some space and look to work things out eventually and so I can get past what he’s done as he knows it was wrong but I don’t seem to be able to get over it? The locks on the phones seem unreasonable to me… and I’m not sure if I trust that nothing ever happened with this girl or whether it still is going on. He said he won’t budge on his privacy. Since the locks we’ve argued every single day so he went to his mums for this ‘break’.
Currently he’s between our home and his mums, but has been at our home 99% of the time.. playing with out son, talking to me nicely, he’s here every spare moment now that we’re ‘having a break’…. doing exactly what he should have been doing before this mess… except the locks are still there.
Am I setting myself up to be hurt again as I can’t get over what he did… I’m feeling used and low by him still being around as I’m not comfortable about the phones even though I seem to want him around rather than not knowing what he’s up to. He got given so many chances because I was scared of him leaving, possibly being with her or someone else, and the thought of having my family blown to bits by his selfishness. The whole thing is a mess and don’t think I can trust him again. What’s everyone’s opinions ?
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