Sorry for long post but my mum and dad havnt been together in years and my dad s…
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Sorry for long post but my mum and dad havnt been together in years and my dad slates off my mum and looks down on me and my siblings all the time. Just because they have well paid jobs. My dads paid 10 pound a week to my mum when i was little. his gf always came first. I fell pregnant in the middle of my studies and My sons only 5 months and hes been saying im fat to my boyfriend and sister and all i can do is cry i know it sounds stupid but im so sensitive he has always picked flaws and i do not show any of my body because of my dad always picking on me from a young age with his gf. (i used to be anorexic and had eating disorders and thats just stopped the last couple years) also hes been saying i stand for nothing because i wont christen my son but i never even got christened myself? the reason why is because i want my son to have the freedom and choice of what he wants to believe which ive explained loads. My dads getting married in a few weeks and im not invited or his own son not even his first grandchild (my son). Just him, his gf, and his gfs friends as witnesses… Oh and his gfs daughter obviously! Honestly i love my dad loads and ive always made effort with him, tried to make him proud i just cant take another day of him trying to control my life i know hes saging hes helping but everytime i see him its a converation about money, college, i need a house with a garden, i need to do this and that and lose wieght and my child should do this and that and everything!!!! Its so stressful im only 19 first time mum i just want to enjoy this moment but i cant what do i do? i dont want to upset anyone i dont know what to do. Hes been like this since i was little its just the way he is.😕
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Look up narcissism, you need to separate yourself from him & his toxicity! I get that he’s your dad & you love but the only person who should be proud of you is yourself. Look at the obstacle of being anorexic you’ve overcome, I bet that wasn’t an easy fight. I bet you’re not even “fat” (what’s fat anyway societies view on it or actually being overweight/obese!) like ffs not being funny you’ve recently had a child & we all gain a lil weight when we’re pregnant. You’re a strong person & you can totally do this. Concentrate on yourself & your lil lad. Screw your dad & his gf! Let them screw their own lives up!! It’s time for you & your lil man x
First and foremost do not allow his insensitive comments to bring back old habits. You’re never really fully cured from an eating disorder it’s always there lurking. He should not be the reason for you to relapse. I think if you feel confident enough you should tell him that his rude non supportive and unwanted comments are disgusting. As a father he should be supporting you not attempting to knock you down. I personally would cut all ties until he has understood what he has done. You don’t have to christen your child, you are his mummy and you make those choices no one else. As for the wedding I wouldn’t lose sleep over it do you really want to be there for someone who brings nothing but sadness? I wish you the very best of luck with everything x
No disrespect but your dad sounds like a complete idiot and the best thing you can do is stay well away!
Focus on yourself and your son make your own happy memories without him dragging you down.
I think you need to tell your dad how he’s making you feel and if he doesn’t listen or try to understand how you feel and be a bit more restrained with how he is behaving then my advice would be to distance yourself and see if that helps and makes a difference
I would talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel of he doesn’t take your feelings in board then As hard as it would be, it sounds like the best thing you can do is take a step back from him. If he’s not willing to appreciate you for who u are he doesn’t deserve to have you in his life. It might hurt to do that but I bet it hurts more what he’s doing to you now. Of all the people in the world your dad should make you feel like the best most beautiful person in the world. Xx
Cut him right off from you and your lil boy.. no one needs some one like that in there life… some dad he is if he can say things like that to you 😡