please can I have a private post.
I have not seen my sister for almost a year (She lives less than 5 miles away) We haven’t officially fallen out just that she wasn’t there for me when I had a bereavement and I stubbornly didn’t get in touch with her (which to me showed that it was always me trying to make an effort in past anyway). I didn’t receive a birthday card from her then come Christmas time I had a message out of the blue asking when id be in for her to drop presents round for mine and other family who i was sue to visit. The day she planned on coming I did have plans so asked her to take them somewhere else (another family member). I had been putting off contacting her to say let’s not bother with Christmas anymore and now wish I had.
She sent us some presents and I hadn’t bought her anything (for 1st time ever). I do feel a bit guilty but don’t really see the point when we’re not in each other’s lives anymore. Not sure how to deal with this to be honest. It’s her birthday in new year so wondering whether to post a card or not bother and cut ties altogether.
I did message her to thank her for our gifts and say Merry Christmas.
As I say, we haven’t officially fallen out, just drifted apart, have nothing in common really and it’s all been since our Mum moved away really.