Basically, my ex and i were together for 9 years. We split last May and it was m…

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Basically, my ex and i were together for 9 years. We split last May and it was my choice as i tolerated 9 years of constant lying and cheating.

I felt i was in a position to put a stop to it all and finish it. All was well. we remained friends because its just easier that way.

fast forward to Christmas 2016 and i said (because i know what hes like) if he wants to spend the day with us no problem as i had all my family round but said if things next year are going to be different then please say.Anyway, he spent the whole day with us, i cooked him dinner, showered him with gifts, made tea, made him feel more than welcome. Everything was pleasant although he was very distant and I felt like I was doing something wrong.

At 5pm he put my children into pyjamas and I said their not going to bed till late probably around 9-9.30 and his face dropped and he couldn’t leave quick enough.

I knew the next day something was up and his mind was somewhere else. I ‘blocked’ him on facebook even though he blocked me but I could see his profile picture and it was him and another girl in bed.

I was happy he was happy but why didn’t he just tell me.

Anyway since then it turned horrid. I said that I was happy for him and everyone deserves happiness. So here I am a single mum, full time job ect giving my child everything they need and want.

Hes made my life hell. Baring in mind they got together November 2016, they are engaged, getting married next month, shes now 27 weeks pregnant and hes now sure as hell hes going to make my life hell.

Ive never stopped access cause I believe that would be punishing my child but he promised my child they would NOT have to sleep over but hes gone to a solicitor to get that but then back tracked saying he doesn’t want him over night.

My brain is fucked.

Im just a Mum on my own, working hard to provide a safe environment for my child whilst giving them the most love I can.

I received the letter from his solicitor and got teary so my child asked what was up and I explained as easily as I could and tried to make it a positive but my child was so so so upset but my ex wouldn’t even pick up the phone to console him baring in mind hes broken a promise he made. My child wanted just some reassurance. I called his number 3 times and I got told if I called again he would go to the police again. When he says again I mean his Fiancé received called and who ever it was said it was me. They had no proof of this. My ex said he knows my number hes not stupid and rambelled the home phone line but I said oh home phone? Thought it was my mobile? He said yes mobile so I asked his fiancé for proof and she showed me and it said ‘no caller ID’ so I said how the hell did you get to the conclusion it was me given there was no number they said they said on the phone they were me?! How on earth would I have any details for her? I therefore called the poilice and advised of the situation and asked them to look through my phone records ect… they said they didn’t need to and that I am able to change my number if I want so that’s what I did. I said I would be happy to call the police in front of them to get this clarified and they told me not to. Which just proves my point.

My ex took my child to meet his fiancé when I asked for it to be the following week because my child only got told the week previously he had a girlfriend. I said I was happy for it but not until the following week my email to him went:

Hey,

I spoke with (***my child***) last night. I basically said ‘Daddy said he told you about his girlfriend’ he said yeah I said would you like to meet her? He went very shy and quiet and I said it’s absolutely fine my beautiful. He said not really. I said but she might be really nice he got a little upset and said but your my mummy so I said of course I am I’ll always be your mummy but she might want to be your friend. He said he’ll think about it.

It was literally a passing conversation in a changing room.

So I think that this week you should say to him your think of going somewhere in a few weeks would you mind if she comes? Don’t obviously say it as soon as he gets in the car…

Also, give the boy some space. Realise, he wants to spend time with you no one else. He doesn’t need the constant flow of new people in his life and people like your family in his face.

It’s a step by step process.

I think you also need to ensure him I’m his Mum and that you’ve spoken to me ect…. really really reassure him cause last night he got upset and I could tell he was worried but I said it’s fine to him and there is absolutely nothing to be worried about.

The was 27th May. So a month ago

Im trying my hardest to stay strong but I cant. He has caused me so much stress and upset that if I was to list it I really would be typing for a week straight.

He thinks because hes in the military he should be respected at all times and that he is untouchable and that I should always do what he says.

He was supposed to have my child Sunday but got so steaming drunk Saturday on his stag do at Ascot it was not going to happen.

He loves making my life hell im at witts end 😞
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