Can I have a pp please I’ve been seeing someone for 7 months. His ex wife is a …
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Can I have a pp please
I’ve been seeing someone for 7 months. His ex wife is a nightmare she left the youngest two children to live with him and said she’d have them every other weekend. They have two older children who aren’t his but class him as dad who live with her. She barely takes the kids but constantly asks him to babysit usually when he’s due to come and see me. Once again this weekend she has said she can’t take the kids but is asking him to watch all 4 he won’t say no! I’ve now split up with him as feel I am playing second fiddle to his ex wife. Not sure what I’m looking for here maybe just other stories or a but if advice am I a bitch for saying enough is enough? My heart is breaking and I’m gutted but this has went on long enough and I can’t see any of it changing
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Sorry can you reply again please. No not second fiddle to his kids he is a fantastic dad and I would never ask him to drop the kids to come and see me! She makes arrangements with him though for example last weekend was her weekend to have the kids she asked if he could take the kids so she could go out on the understanding that this weekend she would take them for a day to repay the favour. She is conveniently busy not this isn’t a one off situation it happens all the time. I also have 4 kids so I’m not some dragon who doesn’t understand what it’s like but she constantly asks for favours and let’s him down last minute each and every time I know it’s because he is coming to see me I’m not daft. How can I keep at it though when he allows her to rip the piss out of him. We have only met each other’s kids once I have an autistic son so it’s not as easy as let’s see each other when the kids are there the process has to be gradual
Can you reply please
We don’t see each other if kids are there as it’s a pretty new relationship and neither of us want to go too fast on the kid front.
Also we have been together 7 month
You feel your second fiddle to his x ? Perhaps, but she is the mother to his children…. but second fiddle to his children …. yes …. and as you should be. You got involved with a man with 4 kids. He sounds like a good dad. Would you rather he was a deadbeet dad and dropped everything for you ?? This status is confusing . If thats the case then he and is kids are better of 🤔
His kids will allways come first, why cnt you spend time with him when he has his kids or are you one of these women that want him all to your self and gets jealous of the kids I’m not sure how to take posts like this probabky will get shot down but oh well
No you are a playing 2nd fiddle to his kids they way it should be, if she is refusing to take the younger 2 what can he really do about it? It sounds like he’s a good man who has stepped up to his responsibilities 👏🏻👏🏻. Maybe your just not ready for that.
I think your a bit harsh here. As frustrating as it may be for you, his kids come first. I don’t understand why you can’t see him if he has the kids?
I’ve been with my boyfriend 2 years and his ex has always been ‘part of our relationship’ if you like, because she is the mother of his child. I think it’s admirable that he will drop everything to look after his children, even if they’re not his biologically. My boyfriend was sat up the hospital with his ex’s son yesterday because he’s been his father figure since he was 4 (now 15). Personally, I wouldn’t and never have had a problem with my boyfriend dropping everything for BOTH of those children despite one not being his. One of the things I love most about him is his commitments and dedication to the children. Sometimes you have to put your needs aside and think how you’d feel if the shoe was on the other foot. I hope you get things sorted soon x
Your not playing second fiddle to his ex your playing second fiddle to his kids! He’s a devoted dad that would clearly do anything for them that means you either have to accept it or move on 👌👏. I’m my eyes hes an amazing dad
No your not a bitch obvious his kids will come first and his ex wife knows that so she’s playing upon that to piss you off and it’s worked honestly how long you been together ? X
Kids come first and they always will. Sounds like the ex wife is testing your relationship .. don’t let her win x
You shouldn’t have given into the ex so easily she’s won now. As horrible as it is you will always play the 2nd fiddle to his children they will always and rightly so be his priority but the bitter ex will know this and know how to drive a wedge between you both. I have a friend who been with her partner 5 years who’s ex is still playing games and using their kid as a tool her partner plays along with it all for fear.
Not all exs are easy some are worse than others and when you throw kids into the mix it’s a nightmare.
It’s probably too late with this guy if you’ve thrown in the towel already he probably needed support men hate hassle and you will be one less for him to worry himself over regardless of how much he likes/loves you some men don’t handle stress