Can i have a pp please My 7yr old son has just come home from a weekend with hi…
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Can i have a pp please
My 7yr old son has just come home from a weekend with his dad. He has him every other weekend. My son has just told me that his dad was having a party all weekend. On friday my son was left in the sitting room with a 4 yr old girl all night while his dad was in the kitchen getting drunk with his friends. When my son tried to go into the kitchen he was told he wasnt allowed in. On saturday he was told to stay in his bedroom and play on his game while the party continued downstairs. Need advise on what to do as i think this is completely out of order
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Can you add to my post please. There is a court order in place so its not that easy for me to just stop contact or i would until he is ready to be a responsible parent. I have asked my son loads of questions to make sense of it and he gave me a list of about 20 family members that were there and there was also a number of people that he didnt know. I am not bothered by people having a few drinks while in the company of children as long as they can stay responsible but it sounds to me like a weekend bender. My sons dad is also a DJ and my son said he was doin that so its sounds like a big party rather then just a small get together. Both nights my son was told to stay out of the way. So it sounds to me like he was left to his own devices for quite some time
I’m not a big fan of people having parties with kids in the house. What if a fire broke out? Would his father be able to safe guard his child whilst drunk? What if the child swallowed something and choked while the adults were down stairs? I’m sorry but it’s highly irresponsible to drink alcohol around children!
You need to contact the dad and hear his side of it. My 8yr old son says “all day” when infact it was a few hours. Get the facts calmly first. If he is telling the truth tell him to organise parties on the weekend he does not have his son otherwise he won’t be going there again.
Speak to the dad first , kids say stuff , could of had couple of friends round for a drink for an hour or so or maybe someone came down and was stopping there , but if he’s saying the truth then that’s wrong xx
I wouldn’t be letting my child go back round there. Clearly his dad isn’t a responsible adult and isn’t putting his child first! X
I’d contact the dad.. And ask him what he done at the weekend, dont tell him everything your son has said, just see what he says then question him… If it is true I’d be fuming.. X
Assuming you believe it to be true? He wouldn’t be going there again if he were my son
Set some rules for the dad and if they are not followed then you have a right to stop contact as if something happened when your son was present it would become a safeguarding issue and courts could stop contact altogether
Also if social services are involved they don’t take lightly to drinking around children in there eyes it’s worse than drugs
Do you have a social worker or someone legally to talk to if there is problems regarding contact ?