Can I have a private post please. Iam at my wits end and I feel like a terrible …
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Can I have a private post please. Iam at my wits end and I feel like a terrible mom. I have 2 young children. 8 yo boy and 4 yo girl, different dads and we are not together. I have my girl full time and have my boy every weekend. I struggle to have a good relationship with my boy. When he comes over to see us he is rude, disrespectful, mean, and complains about everything! When I ask him to do simple tasks like get dressed or clean up after himself he groans, grunts and tells me NO. When I try to discipline him for things he always tells me its his sisters fault and he never takes responsibility for doing or saying things that are wrong. He distroyes his sisters toys, books and my house. He has written on my walls things like, I hate my mom, I hate my family, I need a new mom and my mom sucks. He tells me he never wants to come see me or his sister again.. All because I discipline him when he does wrong. This happens every time he comes over. The last two weeks he didnt come over because I couldn’t handle the stress and upset between the 3 of us. I try to talk to his dad when these things arise and all he does is tell our son that when he come back to his house that they are going to go buy things and do fun stuff. He doesn’t help support me in any way or repremand our son for doing wrong. He does nothing to teach our son to respect me. I got my son for the first time in 2 weeks last night and already Iam done! I just can’t handle the constant disrespect and way he acts when he is with me. I don’t want to be around him. I feel like a terrible mom and person. I have no support or help with him. I love him so much but hate how he makes me feel. I can’t talk to his dad about it because all he does is patronize me. Iam lost and don’t know what to do…
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The poor little thing must be so confused. Probably thinking why his sister gets to live with mum and he doesn’t. And you just decide to not have him because you “can’t cope with it” no wonder he’s acting the way he is. Put yourself in his shoes
Who does he live with? His dad and who else? Also, what was the reason as to why he’s living with his dad and not you?
Maybe he’s been told bad stuff about you and doesn’t want to have anything to do with you because of what’s he’s told? I’m very sorry for what you’re going through with your son. His father should be more supportive with you. What’s he like at school?
does he wonder why he doesnt live with you but his sister does and thats why hes playing up? x
Sounds like he is lashing out and is jealous at the fact his sister is living with u and he isnt. Try spending time with him without Ur daughter there
The things he writes on the wall are meant to be seen, so he’s reaching out
try have alone perhaps he is craving attention why not spen time just him and you and not his sister her obviously wants attention and thats why he doing it if he hated you he wouldnt come see u
Maybe he has no boundaries or consequences in place at his Dads and and doesn’t like the fact that u do x