Can I have a private post please Sorry for the long post here goes! My son wh…
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Can I have a private post please
Sorry for the long post here goes!
My son who’s 14 has always been difficult he has adhd which was picked up in his last year of primary school he is now on medication and has been for the last 3 years. He went to high school but has refused to go for the last year was being excluded quite alot at one point school have been great and tried everything possible to help him, he now does his lessons on the laptop at home I’m in regular contact with school but I don’t want this to be long term as ultimately I want him back in school. He never comes anywhere with me or his dad always stays in his bedroom sometimes comes downstairs but likes his own company we try out hardest for him to come with us on days out says he’s coming then changes his mind last minute he’s snappy eats all the time and makes no effort in his appearance like he used to.
Tonight he said would I go to his room to talk to him I did and as soon as he saw me he burst into tears and said he feels depressed and said things have gone to far I didn’t know what to say so hugged him and just let him talk I cried with him I feel so bad and I feel I’ve let him down so much why didn’t I pick up on it I just thought he was being a typical teenager I said I would take him to the doctors but he doesn’t want to go what do I do who do I speak to about this?
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My son is 15 with adhd and asd and it’s hard for them cos they feel different and all the noise around them is really loud in their head (as my son describes it) all I can suggest is been there for him and suggest fresh air in quiet areas for him so he gets used to been out again. He will need a doctors help, is there anyway you can speak to his camhs team or maybe ask the doctor to make a home visit?
Speaking from experience all he may want is someone to talk to, whether that be you or someone at CAMHS. Maybe try and see your GP. They can’t medicate as he isn’t over 25 but if you ask they may refer him to CAMHS. Schools are really interested unless you have a “proper” diagnosis, which may have to be a letter from your GP, or CAMHS. If they refuse to refer him to CAMHS keep nudging them and keep going back as in the end they will get annoyed! Really how this helps, and hope your son gets the help needs x
My son is 14 and has a few issues I took him to the docs about depression and they sent him to see someone it helped always remember he’s a teenager and they don’t always say how they feel don’t feel u have let him down as u haven’t x
I’d sit down with him and do research about it; if he understands fully what depression is and that it’s nothing to be scared of talking about he is more inclined to speak to a professional in confidence. I’d say he needs to go to the doctors tho x
They should refer him to cams as my son did
https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/
Young Minds have a helpline for parents who can give you advice x