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Can I have a private post please? This means my details aren’t shown , right ?
I need advice, I’m 35 and have been married for 11 yrs ( together 20 yrs ) the last 4 or 5 years I’ve been really unhappy we have 3 children and the youngest is 1. We’re having a hard time with baby not sleeping and both tired( which I know can make things seem worse) trying to juggle work and life and the other 2 kids.financual issues also.
I feel like I’m in a loveless relationship we barely communicate and intimacy is gone ( we’ve kissed once in 2 wks). The last few months we’ve had huge arguments where we’ve both said we want to end things then have made up.
. I sometimes think the only thing keeping me in relationship is im worried the impact a split would have on our children particularly eldest, 10 yo girl who is so sensitive and I worry she would struggle…
Feel like I’m wasting my life and keep thinking I could have a happy life maybe a new relationship ( no one else just hytothesising) in the future , I feel like I’ve at least 40 -50 years of potential happiness im missing out on.
My hubby speaks to me rudely , he seems to think it’s ok and i hate it . he puts everyone before me, everyone outside of our home would always say what a great guy he is, how he’d always help someone out etc…which is true tho he doesn’t treat me like that, I come last on his list of priorities . I feel like his bad attitude is rubbing off on eldest. He calls me lazy makes snide comments about my weight always shouts and argues about every minor detail. In the past he has pushed / slapped me on about 4 occasions and was really sorry afterwards, but I find I really resent him for it and if I bring it up he gets really defensive and isn’t apologetic anymore.
He’s had anger management counselling after the last pushing incident but it didn’t really do anything.
What do i do? Do I leave him or do I wait it out and see if things improve ?
It’s been really getting me down I told him the other week I felt like jumping off a bridge and he didn’t take any notice.
He knows how I feel but doesn’t seem to care, I told him if he wanted to save our relationship he had to arrange marriage counselling which he said he would but hasn’t bothered.
I know all relationships have rough patches but I feel like this isnt getting any better. I have never told anyone any of this especially not my family or friends mainly because I don’t want them to think badly of him.
I’m really sorry for the essay just don’t know what to do and feel at breaking point. I also feel I could be depressed and prob need to see the gp which may be skewing my perception of things but then I feel I’m depressed about the circumstances rather than in myself.
Sorry again. TIA xx
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