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  • Perhaps the child acting out already feels left out and that is the reason for the behaviour ….As a parent you don’t get to alienate a child because of behaviour …you teach them how to act appropriately and with unconditional love ….favouring one over the other is mentally and emotionally abusive to the one left out

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  • Depends how close everyone is. Do you and him get along… in all honesty id let him… shows the kids the kind of person he is. Also if the kids are close the other wont want to go without the other… me and my brothers had the same growing up. We saw ourselves what it was. Plus if the other one wants to go, you dont look the bad one… cant punish the other cuz dads a divv.
    If the other goes with dad, have a special day with the one left behind. Make it a you and them day. Nothing worse for kids that fighting and bickering. In my experience the other will soon get bored if they go with dad and theyll wanna spend it with you and the one left behind.

    Sorry if that doesnt make much sence lol. xxxx

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  • I would then say he can’t see the other one. Because it’s not fair that he won’t see one but will the other. and the reason is ridiculous! Every mother & father go through these situations that involve children being naughty or not listening. You don’t get to pick & choose. And one day that child will soon realise that he’s not seeing his dad but the other is and that will seriously upset the poor thing. You should never let your children feel left out x

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  • You cant do that with kids, the other child will feel left out and unloved, thinking that daddy dont love them, and things can get worse,

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  • Um no? You can’t choose which child you parent just because of a bit of bad behaviour! Get him told, its all or nothing!! X

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  • Find out why the child’s acting out if it’s unusual if it is the usual for u iT will cause more issues for u for kiddies not being treated the same the dad should deal with behaviour he’s the parent aswel

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  • Both or neither, you can’t pick and choose when you parent I’m afraid. He needs to man up and be a dad to both

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  • Both or neither you can’t pick which children you want to parent and which you don’t x

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  • Also make a point of telling him if he doesn’t face it and deal with the behaviour it won’t get any better x

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  • No way has to be both together. We deal with meltdowns everyday..not fair on the child.

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