Can someone help me or give me advice please? Please no nasty comments I already…
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Can someone help me or give me advice please? Please no nasty comments I already feel crap as it is..
Basically my partner gets up for work about 5.30 and drives an hour and a half to work and the same back. Gets home about half 6. So he’s always tired. I get no help with the house or caring for our nearly 6 month old daughter. I told him numerous times I don’t expect much from him in the week as he works and is tired but would like help on the weekends (is this reasonable?) To get nothing. I do everything for him and our daughter.. He basically doesn’t lift a finger. We have a cat, that gets shit marks all over the floor where the litter tray is, poos around the house and wees near the litter tray and I’m fed up of cleaning after it. He changed the tray about 3/4 times within about 3 months and fed it twice. I asked him the other day if he would change it after work to be told i do “fuck all, all day” when he came home to his tea ready for him when he walked in the door and various other jobs done. But then he tells me I just don’t do enough while he’s at work.. He says he’s come back to it being a shit hole.. when it’s not. The pots have been done, worktop cleaned, living room tidy. He says there’s shit everywhere.. I asked where and he said letters and random stuff. The letters are in a letter/key thing hung on the wall and isn’t that many. Been made to feel shit tbh. Like every thing I do for him isn’t appreciated 😕 he doesn’t do anything. And makes me feel like I’m the bad person for wanting some help.. anyone else experienced This?
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Until recently my husband worked and I stayed at home he would do dishes ect if they were left I mite say to him can u hang the washing out but now I’ve just started working full time as well the rules of the house have totally changed I go out first nd he takes kids to school so does dishes nd will hang the washing out nd maybe on a night he will prep tea for next day. But when I didn’t work I didn’t really expect him to do any think x
I’m in two minds what opinion to have on this.. I deffo think he should help on weekends!! But when I worked (now on maternity) my other half who doesn’t worked (looked after my child) did everything in house, along with looking after my son and cooking ect. I only did 30 hours and through week he didn’t expect nothing from me as he knew it was hard been pregnant, working ect.. but not everyone thinks that way I guess!
I think your husband should help you at weekends and the odd job through week, like bath time and bedtime.. it’s not hard to bath a child/children and get them to bed so you can relax before bed! Even if he has worked all day. Even though I worked and my partner didn’t want me to, there was still things I did around the house to help him.. even if I’d just done a 10 hour shift x
I really don’t know what to say but it does sound like you might be a be depressed tbh honest yes he could help and should there are some lasses who live alone with many kids who have to do it all there self tell him to help you on a weekend as you do need a brake tell him you need to talk becouse it’s sounds like if you two don’t sort this out I can not see this going any where x
I’m the same as this with my 3 kids (5-3-9 months ) my partner works all week and chills at weekends but I don’t work so I never ask for help but I think that’s my personal routine with the kids I don’t want it interrupted xxx
yes he works but help is not hard and as far as the cat I put it out and same with him if he dose not help out
All my life my mum told me men are selfish pigs… she is 100% right!
Yes… he’s now my EX husband