Can you do a post for me please? I need some advice for clearer head as I really…
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Can you do a post for me please? I need some advice for clearer head as I really don’t know what to do as I just wanna stop all this. Ladies and men. Please answer as honest as you can. If you have a partner who you love dearly (especially if they are your first and know them since babies basically grew up together) – you’ve had such a bad child hood and then your with the childhood sweetheart and both of you grew up to have kids and married and it’s like a fairy tail expect it’s not. Your partner is so good to you at times and a good parent (not the best but good enough) and doesn’t do like most partner does (socialise a lot, cheat etc), who’s with you 24/7 (apart from work obviously) play computer games with you, get in bath with you every week, watch tv together and just have a warm enjoyable company most of the time. Helps out around the house (rarely helps clean the house but does the dishes often) – doesn’t help with the kids at all like changing nappies, bath them, put them to bed or even get up in the mornings with them and always has a lie in while your up with the kids. BUT your ok with that, you find that normal and still happy. You can cope with that just fine. The only problem is other people and things that have been happening. Friends who are not really a mate and likes to cause trouble at all times and when you moan so much about it, your partner decides to stop being their mates but resents you, saying it’s your fault and that you stopped them having friends when it’s not the case. Things comes up with porn (to which you are against with), escorts sites, dating websites, text services from like hot babes or whatever you call it, been happening for so many years non stop and your partner deny most of them saying they never did it and someone must have done it hacked into it or something to try split us up etc. At first you think oh well it’s just a text/porn just ignore it, but it keeps happening on and on year after year you start to get fed up and start to control the devices, like on iPhone you put restricted passcode on safari so no private browser can be use so that way it doesn’t happen again but your partner moans that they have no private life and makes out that your so controlling and need help. After all these things and people what would you EXACTLY do? When you think it’ll never ends. Would you accept it or would you go separate ways? Would you do what i do? If your partner have been on escort sites for 2 years behind your back, money going missing and dating website – to admitting ONE of them, would you trust them after that or would you track their moves on iPhone to see where they are? If people are out there to try split you up would you let your partner carry on be friends with them or would you say it’s me or them? Help me out here please. I know it doesn’t explain everything as I’ve already typed out too much and there is a lot more to the story so I apologies if you don’t really understand but please answer as you can. Thanks I just want this to stop it is making me so ill and I’m starting to believe it’s all my fault. Xx
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Irrelevant of if he’s physically cheated, you have locks and passwords on HIS phone. That was when this should have ended. You won’t do either of you any good by staying. This relationship sounds toxic and very unhealthy!
Leave because it sounds like he is cheating on u then trying to twist it round that u am paranoid, tbf he is having a his cake and eating it, he knows ur background and I think he is using that against u please get rid or walk out with ur kids, it can’t be nice for them too see arguments at the home. Cheating and controlling are the words ie using or those was one of ur kids what would you advise them to do, u would say get them out of ordinary get out and don’t look back
Ok so you said he didn’t cheat but then said he is on escort sites, babe he does cheat if he’s planning on meeting with an escort or already has (even online chatting) that’s cheating.
Secondly, he’s lying to you. By saying that he hasn’t done these things and pretending like it’s “magically” happened. It didn’t just get there on its own. And if someone really did hack into his phone he would be phoning the police concerned with his privacy.
Your not doing the right thing by tracking him ect ect you are controlling him but he has made you insecure and he very well knows this.
If your not comfortable with porn and he has known this since yous met and at some point I assume he said he would or wouldn’t do it then he has broken your trust again. (Different story if he said he would be on porn sites)
In all honesty he’s disrespecting you. And if it were me I would check the pros and cons of the relationship (the way I am feeling mentally as well) and see which one outweighs the other. Because I only have your side of the relationship I’d say on your side the cons outweigh the pros.. I would seek help from a professional or if you think he wouldn’t be bothered or it wouldn’t work I would leave. I feel like you’ve been made to think he is this wonderful person and he really isn’t. Doing all of those things are nice (quality time ect ect) but if your not feeling like he knows your worth.. or he knows it but doesn’t treat you like your worth that much then he doesn’t deserve you. I’m also sorry if this doesn’t make sense. Btw this is only my opinion.