Could I have a private post please? Sorry guys this might drag on but I am desp…

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Could I have a private post please?

Sorry guys this might drag on but I am desperate for advice.

I have a son who is 3 months old, he is absolutely stunning and just the light of my life.

His dad left when i was 6 weeks pregnant and then when I was 9 weeks pregnant he was away with another women which must have been going on for quite a while as they looked cosy in the picture. He tried to keep it a secret till I was 20 weeks pregnant
but what he doesn’t realise is women know everything!! Haha when I asked him outright and admitted he was seeing someone, that was fine by me it meant I could concentrate on myself without thinking of him.

Now our son is here he makes life hell for me, he sees him 3/4 times a week for 2 hours which I feel is more than enough but he pesters me for more time, so I agree as I never want him too say I didn’t try. He talks to me like absolute shit, he has been away 11 times in 3 months with his new gf and had lied about each one, saying that he hasn’t been able to rely to my messages about our son because he was too busy too look at his phone but it turns out he isn’t allowed to message me when he is in her company. I text him a bit more than any other mum would because our son was born with breathing problems and continues to have them.

I always find out he is away through his mum as I have to then let her know what’s going on and what doctors have said and he doesn’t text me for days asking how our son is, he has gone 4 days when it son was 3 weeks before replying to me.

I do every feed, every bath, every nappy as it’s just me and it’s bloody hard work! When he comes round he just rocks him to sleep, let’s him sleep even if I have told him he has just woken up and then texts on his phone the whole time which makes it hard for me as then he is awake till 2am.

He doesn’t have any bond with my son as he doesn’t talk to him or play with him just let’s him sleep on him, I honestly believe he asks to see him more just to wind me up or spy on what I’m up too. I don’t trust him alone with my son as he has even done a bottle for him and refuses too. Shall I just put up with all of this or tell him that it’s 3 times a week at 2 hours as it’s all getting too much for me? I feel like I’m being unfair and I don’t know the ‘correct’ amount of time a dad should see their son. He is asking that in a few weeks he has him for the whole day alone but I can’t do that yet as he lies about where he is and who he is with 24/7.

Just a side note after I gave birth I spent a long time in hospital as I nearly passed away due to Septicaemia, but this man has never once said I’m doing a good job even though his son is always fed,always happy, sleeps 8 hours a night without fail, my house is always clean and tidy and my son always comes first and I drive my son to see his family and they never come here. I feel like I’m struggling but I have no one to help me. I am criticised if I give him a bottle and not breast feed him on every feed.
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