Could you post a private post please, thank you x Hi I’m just looking for peopl…

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Could you post a private post please, thank you x

Hi I’m just looking for peoples opinions on what to do in this situation. Particularly from parents of teenagers.

We have recently moved home, my teenage son has moved in with us from living with his dad. He has special needs and very bad anxiety. He is 16 and a smoker. We had a rule that nobody smokes in the house and smoking is only allowed in the porch or outdoors. My son wanted to discuss this with us and explained that he is worried and scared about going to the porch at night alone, he doesn’t have a good sleep pattern at the moment so he is awake for a good few hours through out the night, he has come from a household where he was permitted to smoke in his room and is now facing our rules about no smoking in the house. I was willing to consider allowing him to smoke for the time being in another suitable room as long as he leans out of the window and only at night, during the day he is to smoke outside. My son doesn’t take to change very well, he struggles to adapt, I’ve brought him into a new home and a new situation again which he is trying his best to adapt to, but I don’t believe it’s a winning situation if we try to impose a stricter view on smoking i.e. No smoking in the house at all, I believe he will only sneak cigarettes in his room and hide it from us and it will cause arguments and friction, so I’ve tried to look at both my partners and my sons point of view and come up with a compromise until my son adjusts to the new house and is more comfortable with going outside at night. My son has agoraphobia and doesn’t leave the house at all at the moment so this plays a part about why he’s scared to go out at night to smoke. partner is coming across as unbending, he believes a rule is a rule and he should obey, he doesn’t want to compromise in any way, he thinks my son is spoilt and just wants his own way and then will take libertys, he’s a teenager though, show me one who doesn’t! My son has tried to discuss it with him and explain that he will lean out of the window (downstairs back room) and will not actually smoke in the room, and he has tried to explain how he feels about going outdoors at night to smoke and how this worries him and he doesn’t feel he can do it. So what would you guys do? Try to understand his situation & Compromise for the time being? Or stick to our guns, ban him from smoking in the house even out of the window and deal with the consequences when he does it and gets caught? Thank you
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