Hey bit of a long one but please can you post anon. I was with my partner 5 ye…

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Hey bit of a long one but please can you post anon.

I was with my partner 5 years – although there problems like any other relationship I got on with it. We lived with my parents in our family home and made him feel welcome and loved. (He wasnt part of a loving family nor did they bother wirh him) We had a daughter when she was 4 months old we agreed to have a family BBQ and we would invite friends and family to try and build a “bond”. Everything seemed to be going well there was an argument between me and him and he made me feel like absolute shit (over me throwing a water balloon at my father who had no problem what so ever) he apologised and admitted he was in the wrong. Things were left as that. Around an hour later his mum started slating me to my sister – she made a comment that I was a bitch and that I should be “rained in”. My sister replied “they can both be as bad as each other” to which his mum started attacking my sister. My mum appeared from the kitchen to the garden to see what to commotion was about his nan then approached my mum and punched her str8 in the face whilst my mum held my daughter. Whilst trying to get his family out of our family home there seemed to commotion in all directions. Once everyone was in the front garden my ex partner was seen attacking and punching my brother repeatly in his face. Whilst doing this his nan smashed a glass bottle over my brother head then swung the glass bottle round into my mum’s shoulder. Police were called and moved them away from the address once they was outside of our property they kept shouting abuse and kept threatening to take my daughter away from me and that is never see her again. From that point on I never ever got back with him and he was never allowed in my house again. Although I never refused him access at all and never have done I just didn’t trust him with my daughter as he had never had her alone and failed many times at sooting her when she was distressed. I then suggested it should go through supervised contact which he refused. He was only happy with me being there. I wasn’t happy about this but thought I should be the bigger person for my daughter’s sake to have a relationship with her father.. a few meetings took place and I’m each one he was either slating my family or pleading for me to take him back. On the last occasion 7 months ago i refused to sit there and listen to him slating my family and got up to leave and defuse the situation at this point he refused to hand my daughter back to me and started threatening me. I called the police and so did he. I then regrettable slap him in his face. The police arrived and by this time my daughger was distressed and was crying he refused again to hand her over to me so I could comfort her he then locked her in his car with no car seat nor her being strapped in. He kept saying he would rather he go into care than back home with me. After 45 minute of he crying he allowed me to soothe her and she stopped crying immediately. I then walked away and got str8 into my car and drove off. Since then he has seen his daughger once on her 1st birthday in a contact centre and again she cried the majority of the time. I received a court letter and the first hearing is soon he is requesting 50/50 access baring in mind he’s a full time shift worker and doesn’t have any time to look after out daughter and he is also requesting that my daughger isn’t left with any of my family because they are a risk to her. ( bullshit) I don’t really no what I’m asking but I just want some advice from people who have been in a similar situation and there results. This isn’t half the stuff that’s gone. Thank you.
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