Hey can I have a private post please? -trigger warning for some- I’ve had my s…
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Hey can I have a private post please?
-trigger warning for some-
I’ve had my son now, but when I was pregnant midwives randomly stopped coming round. When I rang to find out why they told me they was told I had a miscarriage so didn’t continue the visits. So I tried to look deeper into this and a midwife at the health centre said “a male rang to say you had a miscarriage so we discontinued visits”. I told her I was still pregnant and wanted to know who phoned up. They said it wasn’t an official or someone to do with my pregnancy they said it was a “male member or the public”. They had 0 answers for me, I don’t know any men, I don’t socialise, I don’t speak to my family, my partner wouldn’t do such a weird thing so I’m just left confused. I gave birth to my son 8 weeks ago tomorrow. Is this normal? It’s still playing on my mind, even if I did have a miscarriage they just stopped contacting me full stop which is a bit shitty because I’d obviously should be offered support.
No men would have done that so why have I been numerously told a man rang to say I had a miscarriage, but didn’t take his name even?
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I asked the midwives why I wasn’t phoned about it or asked and each midwife kept putting me off and blaming another official. They’re completely adamant that a man rang to say I miscarriaged, I told them it’s not possible I don’t know anyone I don’t even socialise. My partner answered the phone and it was the health visitor to ask about my loss? He just looked at me completely baffled. Ive asked so many people in the centre and nobody is giving me a straight answer. It just pops into my mind sometimes because it’s such a weird thing, they’re not budging on the fact someone rang on my behalf to say I had a miscarriage. But they didn’t take said persons name etc, I just don’t know what even happened, they didn’t even offer me any support I was just without a midwife appointment for a 2-3 weeks
They don’t offer any support after a loss sadly. I’ve had seven, and never been offered anything. Each time, they just stopped after the standard sorry for your loss.
I would personally put in formal complaint as they should not have accepted that they should have looked on your notes and read your medical history to see if you actually had a miscarriage
Could have been a mistake? Called up regarding someone else and your name was taken down? Hopefully it’s that and not some lowlife with a sick mind x
That is really odd 😳
I don’t know why they would take that kind of information from some random person and then not contact you to ask you about it yourself? Obviously it’s a touchy subject but it’s still their job to do that, not just take someone’s word for it. It doesn’t surprise me that it’s still playing on your mind!xx
The person that rung up must be someone who knows you enough as they would need to know your name and further info for a doctor to even b able to get into your file to take note of it x
When I lost my twins at 12 weeks the midwife rang me THREE times to ask why I wasn’t attending my antenatal appointments. I had to explain three times to the same midwife that they had passed away
I’ve had two losses and never once received support from a midwife after.
Fucking nora! Weirdly gave me shivers. Xx
That’s so wierd 😣