Hi can I have a PPP. Last night my 14 year old daughter admitted she was pregnan…
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Hi can I have a PPP. Last night my 14 year old daughter admitted she was pregnant. I noticed the signs, sickness, Massive increase in appetite & asking for weird things, being very clingy, she normally spends all her time on social media to her friends in her room but this past 3 weeks she’s been with me watching movies every chance she gets. I’ve had a feeling for a while but tbh I’ve buried my head in the sand for a few weeks as I couldn’t face the thought of my baby girl having sex let alone being pregnant. She has been with her BF for 1 1/2 years & before you start bashing, I have always brought her up being very open & honest. She knows all about contraception STI etc. I cannot believe this has happened. She is a very caring girl & I know having an abortion will haunt her for the rest of her life. The BF has told her to get rid or he will dump her, he’s only 14 himself so is naturally terrified too. I didn’t get angry but told her I was devastated for her, that her life as she knows it will be over if she keeps the baby. She has been to a 1-1 clinic & they told her she would have to tell me, she was scared to but said she was relieved when I brought it up. I have told her I will support her whatever she decides. I myself could never have an abortion but I’m pro choice. I’ve watched my friend have one & she regrets it, she is haunted by the fact she killed her baby. I don’t think my daughter will have an abortion, she has such a strong caring nature, she will feel like it’s “murder”. I’m in shock & I’ve been up all night crying. I guess I’m looking for advice from mums that have been here, what did you do? Did your daughter have the baby? I told her last night that I love her unconditionally & nothing could make me hate her (she asked if I hated her now) I told her I’m disappointed but that what’s done is done. We have to look forward now & decide what she wants to do. I feel like a complete failure, I never thought I would be typing anything like this so please if you’re going to Jude me I can assure you nothing you say can make me feel like more of a failure as a percent. I’m a single mother who works her ass off to provide for her but now my world has just been turned upside down. What do I do now?
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I’ve never been in your position, but I’ve been in your daughters. I was pregnant when 14 gave birth at 15 and all I can say is that my son made me the person I am today, I’ve created bonds with my mum, dad and grandparents I didn’t think I’d have as I was quite hard work and was just arguments constantly. My mum has mental health problems so when I first told her she was over joyed then angry the next but she always stuck with me threw out and my dad was furious at first but now our bond is incredible. I got my first flat at 16 then got a house at 17 I’m now 18 and had another baby (planned) I’m happy as could be, all though things never worked out for me and their father cause he’s a nob. But I’m independent and doing the best for my children. all your daughter needs is your love and support, make sure your daughter knows how much you love her and will be their for her, tbh id tell you to tell her it’s easier without the child’s father involved if he’s not willing to be 100% there for the baby as mine is a 20% father 80% twat! Tell her not to be scared her life isn’t over it’s just the start and by the sounds off it your an incredible mum your self and the baby will be lucky to have a grandparent like you. Congratulations to her and hope everything works out 🙂 x