Hi can I have a private post please… It’s going to be a long one hopefully it …
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Hi can I have a private post please…
It’s going to be a long one hopefully it makes sense..
I have a 6 year old daughter, I split with her dad when she was 1. They have always had a fantastic relationship and he has her friday-Sunday every weekend at his mothers house as that is where he lives. Around 2 years ago I got a phone call from social services saying that his brother was in a relationship with ‘a adult of concern around children’ I later found out that her and her ex husband had abused their daughter years before she got with his brother and she’d been jailed for it, she had been around my child so I went crazy because they’d knew all along and his brother has stayed with her but they assured me she would be kept away from my daughter so with a lot of thought I aloud her to go back trusting her father/ his family then I’ve found out she has been around her still and my daughters been told not to tell me!!!! But last week I had another call from social services to say that his sister had been in a relationship with ANOTHER ‘adult of concern around children’ (caught with child porn!!!) And that they knew AGAIN!! I am absolutely furious and feel like they’ve totally betrayed my trust and most of all my daughters safety!! They’ve said that his sister isn’t with the man anymore and left him soon as she found out but with all trust broken I don’t believe a word they say anymore! I’ve said she’s not aloud back to that house anymore.. if her dad wants to see her he has to come to mine or even take her out for the day but they are all saying I’m in the wrong! I don’t want to break my daughters heart as she loves going but it’s not a risk I’m willing to take her going back there.. please tell me I’m doing the right thing 😭😭 x
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I know I’m doing the right thing and I’ve got all my family/ friends behind me but him and his family are making this out as if I’m doing this to be a bitch even thought never in my life have I tried or wanted to stop contact! Social services are being absolutely no help as his side have told them that one of the relationships is over and she isn’t around the brothers now wife so social services words were ‘there is no longer a concern’ so I just feel completely helpless coz I know they have lied before and not risking it happening again!
Poster reply – And her dad constantly just says ‘do you really think I would let anything happen to her’ which I honestly don’t but he is still putting her in dangerous situations with known child abusers! He talks to me as if I’m stupid and making me feel as though I’m the one in the wrong!
Your doing the right thing. It only takes once for the family to take an eye off her and an opportunity to be there for this person. I was abused and it doesn’t take long for it to destroy your little one. Almost minutes really. I have children and grandchildren of my own and I would never put my children or grandchildren in that position. Her father should be on your side here and he too should want to protect his child. If social workers are contacting you then I know for a fact that whatever these people have done was really very wrong.
You are doing the right then even if it feels wrong or heartbreaking for your lil girl but stick to your guns don’t let them walk all over you.. let them say what ever they want but at the end of the day your the one who has all the time so and it’s for her safety too.. try get your lil girl to promise you that she tell you everything what happens when she is with her dad
Completely the right thing !! Social services are ringing you as they’ve obviously been told by the family about you and your child and are voicing there concerns they would normally tell you however if they thought your child wasn’t safe in that environment or wether they were investigating your child’s safety but the lack of communication and honesty is enough for you to want him to have contact away from that environment xxx
As parents we make sure our kiddies are safe and supervised properly to make sure nothing bad happens he is the dad and I’m sure he provides that however with social service involved and all that and knowing there is risk then I would do exactly what u would do unless he finds him somewhere else to live
100 percent you’re doing the right thing, you’re not stopping the dad from seeing the child, he can still see her but not in that house which doesn’t sound the safest for your little girl. X
Sounds like ur doing the right thing n im sure social services will support u with ur decision.
100% ur doing the right thing xxx