Hi can I have a private post please. Long post warning! Hi ladies! I was with m…

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Hi can I have a private post please.
Long post warning!
Hi ladies! I was with my son’s dad for 8 years, it wasn’t perfect, he was quite mentally and emotionally abusive. Would call my appearance, I lost all my friends he would lie constantly, and cheated. Anyways when we split he made my life hell! Would let me down financially, would refuse to pick up/drop off my son so I used to finish work and get 2 buses to get him, times he would ask for money as he didn’t have food/heating so I would buy him things why he had my son. I met my new partner who was is Afghan and he sent him death threats, contacted his ex wife they apparently met up for sex!, I didn’t introduce my new partner for around 3 months until I knew how I felt. We’ve been together for nearly 5 years, in these 5 years my partner will meet a new woman move in within 6 weeks get engaged introduce my son etc admitted he lost his bond with our son as he never put him first etc i used to stop him sleeping when he moved in quick with a new gf but never stopped contact fully at 4 my son used to cry he didn’t want to go, I’ve always encouraged him to be in our sons life arranging him to pick him up from school once a week and take him for tea he does it for couple of weeks and won’t bother, it’s a huge story! He admitted to smoking weed why he had my son a couple of years ago until I freaked! He can’t hold a job down etc fast forward to now, in 2 months he’s met 2 different women which as long as my son isn’t involved doesn’t bother me yet sort of proves he still hasn’t changed, my son who is 6 now started wetting the bed which is very out of character, after 2 weeks and 6 incidents I told him mummies were magic and know when something was wrong and he was stressed. I asked if it was home or school he said no, I said what about daddies he went quiet and said sometimes, I asked why he said as his dad doesn’t do anything with him when he’s there other than sit on his phone (which his dad’s mum has said to me she gets frustrated and goes out and buys activities so he’s actually doing something with him), I said Okay, if he had choice to stay with grandad or daddy why I work what would he prefer he said stay with grandad (his dad only has our son one night every 2 weeks) I just felt how sad he’s been getting so stressed about going he was wetting the bed! I asked if he had gone to daddies when sometimes he didn’t want too he said yes when I asked why he said not to hurt daddies feelings. I dropped him off at school that day and cried my eyes out! All these years I’ve pushed for him to be in his life but have I made it worst for my son? I spoke to my exes parents that night who know the full story and ev he’s done, I said I was thinking of stopping contact till he sorts himself out and go from their they couldn’t disagree and his own mum called him a narcissist. He’s been having him during day but not sleeping over as he is in another house share and wouldn’t tell me where it was etc so I didn’t feel safe not knowing where he was. It’s been a couple months my son hasn’t asked for him, asked where he is or to ring him. I phoned his dad that night and explained with wetting bed and what he told me I was stopping contact for few months, he put phone down and I haven’t heard anything since! I suppose I’m asking have I done the right thing? Do I leave it until my son asks to see him? From the day my son told me he stopped wetting bed etc!!! I even took him Drs make sure it wasn’t a uti which it wasn’t. Last week I asked school if he had been okay (my boys very sensitive) she said to be honest I wasn’t aware his dad was even on the scene he’s never mentioned him or talked about him only you and his Stepdad! It broke my heart for my son and always has as he’s never been his first priority! He even said on another occasion my partner was a better Stepdad than his dad as he plays with him and spends time with him, I just wanted cry! He is so lovely and caring my son, I just worry he’ll blame me when he’s older?!
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