Hello, could I have a private post please. Basically my husband and I have bee…
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Hello, could I have a private post please.
Basically my husband and I have been married for just over a year now. I am Muslim myself and my husband converted to Islam nearly 2 years ago now. We had a baby about 5 months ago and It’s now coming up to Christmas. Now growing up Muslim we still ‘celebrated’ Christmas in terms of getting together and enjoying family time etc but we never exchanged gifts with each other etc.
We live very close to my family however my husbands family live around an hour away. It’s not particularly far in my opinion however my mother in law seems to think it’s too far to travel and never gets to see her son or grandchild (which is all my fault and in the evil DIL) unless we go over there. Which was fine until a few weeks ago when my mother in law had another one of her drinking episodes and decided that she would try and victimise myself and my Mum, who I’m guessing she dislikes atm as she gets to see my daughter more often for obvious reasons. It’s got to a point where I no longer wish to see or speak to my mother in law as she doesn’t acknowledge any of the nasty things she’s said in the past or more recently to me or my mum and I have a new battle on my hands. My husband understands his mum is stubborn and knows she has a drinking problem that makes her ‘turn’ but I don’t feel comfortable being in her home at Christmas when I know she’ll be drinking pretty much all day. My husband really wants to take our daughter over On Christmas without me and I don’t really know how I can say I’d like her to spend Xmas with me, after all I’m her Mum but then I feel guilty because Christmas clearly means a lot more to his family than mine and I don’t know whether it would be any good to anyone if I put my foot down and said my daughter was staying with me. I just wanted to know what other people’s opinions on the matter are? Am I wrong to not want her to go there without me? Or should I just accept it and let it go?
Generally speaking I’m quite a forgiving person but some of the things she’s said are a little hard for me to shrug off, I wouldn’t go as far to say she has been racist towards me and my family but I think sometimes she can be ignorant and ‘uneducated’ on certain matters and due to her stubborn nature she believes she is in the right regardless of what I say or do! Help please ! 😊
Thanks!
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