Hi can you do a private post for me please. I am due my first baby in November…
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Hi can you do a private post for me please.
I am due my first baby in November.
I don’t want to sound like a prude but how do you go about telling heavy smokers that you don’t want them to go near your new born baby.
The doctors advised me that smokers carry the nicotine/smoke on their clothes and increases the risk of cot death. My partners dad, who will be grandfather is a chain smoker. If he ever holds the baby it is likely to be not long after a cigarette as he doesn’t go very long without one.
Am I worrying too much? I don’t want to offend him or my partner but I don’t want that increased risk.
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People used to have fires going in their houses and still do, pollution in the air ect, I wouldn’t worry about it to much, it’s only on occasion. I smoke but I make sure that I wash my hands before holding someone else’s new born 👍.
We straight up tell people that if they want to hold our son (they’re smokers or anything) that they have to wash their hands, change their shirt and basically rinse their mouth.
We Hate smoke anyway it fucks with me so we try to avoid people holding him whether we love that person or not.
Remember that no matter who they are you and your partner are a UNITED front everything you do you guys should agree with each other otherwise everything is going to be tense.
My fiancé and I have very identical parenting views we basically agree on everything. So when it comes to setting boundaries for people and laying down the rules it’s pretty easy.
In the beginning alot of people thought we was rude but we just didn’t care this was our baby it was our rules 🙂
My step dad held my daughter amd hes been a heavy smoker since the age of 17. As long as they know to not smoke anywhere near your child and to wash their hands before holding your baby then your child will be absolutley fine.
No one is aloud to have my baby who smoke that was including my sister we had the rule of an hour after a ciggie you could hold the baby even now at 8 months old no one can have him. Enforce the rule now before bubs is born and stick by it. My sister took it well and decided to quit smoking once the baby was born. Unfortunately some family members have never met him because they chain smoke and aren’t willing to stop for an hour to see him. ( baby isn’t allowed in a smokers house either) its hard but your baby your rules xx
Doctors and midwives have always told me even if a smoker washes their hands afterwards, smoke is still on their clothes and in their hair, so not to let a smoker near baby until about an hour after they’ve smoked x
My mum smoke in house when she had me and my siblings myself and 2 others were asthmatic was four of us and im still here 30 years later but totally understand where you are coming from set the rules down you want for your child regarding smoking and stick to them hun and if no one likes it then thats their problem not yours x
If he wears a jacket whilst outside smoking takes it off when he comes in and washes his hands it minimises the smoke hun I smoked and my son was asthmatic (didn’t smoke in house) and this is what I did each time so it wasn’t clinging to me as much x
I would say that your midwife told you that any smokers have to wait 30 mins after a cigarette to hold your baby and explain the link between SIDS and cigarette smoke. Plus I don’t think smokers realise how bad they smell after a fag and I wouldn’t want my lovely newborn smelling like that x
Just tell them straight. Usually they understand. After all I’d rather offend someone for a minute than have my baby near smoke x
Just tell people no holding baby after smoking. I did people understand. Theres so much more info out there now . Not like when we were growing up..
Anyone who smokes and comes to visit wouldn’t be holding the baby I’m afraid , I’m dead set against smoking x