Hi could I have a private post please. Apologies it’s a very long one I’ll try k…
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Hi could I have a private post please. Apologies it’s a very long one I’ll try keep to the point. So my partner has a 16 year old boy from a previous relationship, relationship broke down due to her sleeping with his brother, then running away with him for 7 months & leaving my partner with the child, she soon came back & moved back in with her mum, she had no interest in the child she was quite young at the time, her mum was having none of it & made her take my partner to court, her mum stood in court & swore that that boy would always have a place under her roof, lengthy expensive custody battle & mum won with my partner getting access every weekend. Fast forward a year she’s with a different partner, she tries to leave and he pins the boy (6 years old) down on the sofa so she can’t go, my partner finds out, calls police & SS they see no harm so he has words himself, things seem to get a little better she marries this man & has 2 kids with him, but his sons behaviour in the last year has been ridiculous, it started with skipping school, which now he doesn’t attend at all, he stole money off his mum & stole things off of his siblings, he’s not stolen off us so far, he doesn’t want to go home, now she’s kicked him out & this is where it gets difficult, we now have 2 children of our own, one is disabled I go to work & we have a very busy life style, I feel so guilty because I really don’t want him to move in, he’s showing no remorse for stealing, he just doesn’t seem to care or worry about a thing! His friends parents let him sit round there all day skiving smoking pot, have reported to the police to no avail yet, I’m happy for him to stay at weekends but even then he just dosses about & if you tell him off he just gets up & goes out! I suppose my question really is what do we do? Let him learn the hard way & just stick to weekends? Or try to fix the damage his mums done which to be honest it doesn’t look like it will be an easy job, he’s got no interest in anything, he doesn’t want to go to college or get a job, so much for his nan always being there eh? I just feel like my partner has been a little mugged off, they took him to court, social services came & had to drag that boy out of my partners arms whilst they both screamed & cried for what? For her to ruin him & then give up & try to give him back? Thoughts please thanks
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